2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43
"I break off and scream at the child all the time … I'm a bad mom! …"
"I hit the baby … He cried so much … Why would he have such a mother?"
"You can't, don't touch it, don't get in there … I'm like a Cerberus. What kind of father am I?"
Yes, being parents is not always easy, often even very difficult.
But at some point you understand:
- children in an incredible way discover some absolutely new, very important meaning of our life;
- the family is a jewel, it is the rear, it is a PLACE OF POWER;
- this is real happiness when they are waiting for you at home, when there is this HOUSE at all;
- you are loved, appreciated and accepted for who you are;
- YOU NEED! I really need …
And for the sake of all this is worth trying, right ?
So is a good parent a mythical character, a rare endangered species, or anyone can learn and become one?
MANAGEMENT
HOW TO BECOME A GOOD PARENT:
1) A good parent is a parent who is in a state of harmony, knows how to restore and maintain it.
Please remember how you react to a child when you feel good?
You are happy, you have a good day, everything is great at work, etc. and here is the "test of the day": your beloved but whimpering child; who wants something that does not yet exist in nature; did something wonderful …
What's your reaction? With a high probability it will be like this: "I'll spread the clouds with my hands!" And why? Because you are filled with love! It is easy for you to maintain balance: you are harmonious.
And if today they undeservedly shouted at you, made you wait, would not keep the word given to you, and even have a headache / back / heel?
Here, with a high, high degree of probability, you would not want to "throw up the clouds with your hands", and perhaps you yourself would have started "adding fuel to the fire."
Conclusions:
* happy mom - happy family;
* contented dad - doubly contented mom (see the previous statement);
* our children are a "test for the state of harmony".
2) A good parent is one who loves her child
You just need to LOVE … and in sorrow and in joy, and in illness and health …
Just to love!
Tell him about it:
"I love you even when I don't see you"
"I love you even when you are mischievous!"
"I love you even when I am angry!"
"I loved you even before you appeared - I was waiting for you, I dreamed of you!"
"I'm happy that you are!"
"I will always love you!"
Not "You are bad, you did it!"
And always "You are good, but your deed is not!"
Show your love: consciously participate in its development!
3) A good parent is a parent, consciously participating in the development of their child.
Your child will grow up in any case, even if you don’t play with him, listen to him, teach him to read, draw, etc.
But someday you will look back and realize that you missed a lot.
No matter how busy the day is, find half an hour to play; to learn about his victories and sorrows to tell; talk about your gifts and difficulties; dream; take a walk together; read to him; arrange, albeit small, but a holiday for the two of you.
Take time, organize yourself, and prioritize who and what matters in your life.
There is a simple rule "HE is not YOU !!!"
Take a closer look at it, take a closer look, hear, feel WHAT IS HE?
What does he want, what is he dreaming of?
What does he do easily and happily?
And help him to open up, creating the most favorable atmosphere for his opening, for his development.
- If I want my child to learn to respect me and others, WHAT SHOULD I BECOME FOR THIS?
- If I want a child to overcome his fears and become brave, WHAT DO I NEED TO CHANGE IN MYSELF?
- If I want my child to become hardworking, WHAT IS IMPORTANT FOR ME TO DEVELOP IN MYSELF?
4) a good parent believes in his child!
Believe in him, no matter how old he is and whatever he does!
When parents believe in children, then children have an inexhaustible resource, always. No matter how difficult it may be for them, they will look inside, she will find strength - "My mothers and fathers believe in me!"
Remember your childhood. How important it was when they believed in you! Become that way.
Exercise your faith.
- "I believe in you! I know you can!"
- "Yes, it's not easy now, but you will succeed if you try hard!"
- "Never give up!"
- "You always have a source of strength inside: your mom and dad love you and believe in you, ALWAYS!"
5) a good parent respects his child!
We are all different. Each is unique and inimitable and this is our norm!
I appreciate being respected, my time, my dreams; for this, I develop in myself the skill to respect others, their space, their outlook on life.
Respect builds the foundation for strong relationships, and love makes them beautiful and luminous.
To respect does not mean to be tolerant of everything.
If a child smokes or speaks with ugly words, all day at the computer and no help in the house … We will not say - I respect him, this is his life, he knows best, I am a tolerant parent - no!
There is a big difference between respect and connivance, permissiveness !!!
As long as the child lives in your family, you are responsible for him. You have the right to build the rhythm of his life, giving him so much free time that he can cope with (without destructive manifestations). It is important to educate on time, understanding whether what he is doing carries development or not.
6) a good parent supports her child! (in moderation and norm)
When he is small - do with him, show, explain;
When he's older, do next to him;
When he has matured - do not interfere with him to express himself, believe and support.
When to help?
1 - when there is a threat to life.
2 - when asked.
In all other cases, personal experience will always come first. You can speak about your opinion, in certain situations you are simply obliged to speak about your opinion, perhaps even ask to listen. But beautiful good relationships are always built on love and respect, on the recognition of another person, his aspirations, dreams, his I.
Sometimes, loving your child, it is important to step aside wisely, to let go.
How can I help him
OWN EXAMPLE!
The child absorbs information like a sponge. This information will remain with him in his unconscious structures of "I". It works like a repository of files on the computer: when there is a need, it is possible to access them.
- Do you want your child to love to read? - read to him; read with him, let him see mom and dad with a book in the evenings;
- Do you want him to enjoy learning? - Learn! It is important for him to know that parents also have tasks, exams, which is not easy for them. Learn next to him. (Learn from him - the ability to rejoice, the ability to forgive, admire, the ability to live!)
- If you want him to be able to be friends, to be able to love his body, himself, the world around him - become an example, show, paint these skills with bright colors.
Children are our mirrors! - Friends! Love yourself, others, the whole world and be happy!
7) A good parent - custodian of values and family!
Everything changes, the Law of Change is immutable: civilizations come and go, everything has periods of decline and rise.
But according to the Law of Paradox, there is also the eternal: Love, Harmony, Eternal values.
You can give your children the Strategy, allowing them to develop the Tactics themselves.
Let them absorb into your Family:
- family is development; every teacher! Parents teach children and each other; and the children of the parents;
- the value of unity, that together we are stronger: "One for all and all for one!" When "We" are sometimes more important than "I" and when for the sake of everyone it is so important to learn to be healthy and happy oneself;
- the joy of selfless help to each other, mutual assistance and mutual support;
- the endless light of Love and harmony in the eyes, words and deeds of mom and dad to each other (Children so need happy, loving parents!); to family members; to the whole World - to plants and animals, to the planet, to every soul.
Give children a strategic vision, help them find their Mission.
They can easily learn the tactics themselves.
Planet Earth is a planet for couples, men and women. Brave men and women who go to a level higher than "I" - giving birth to children, CREATING A FAMILY.
In mathematics, 1 + 1 is always 2.
And in life 1 + 1 (He plus She) can be equal to 3, 4, 5 and 10!
If you strive for harmony, love your children, consciously participating in their development; believe, respect, support them and are the keeper of eternal values and FAMILY - YOU are a good parent!
You are a real parent!
Our children are our "test for the state of harmony", a magic vessel given for storage. We help them at the beginning of their life on our planet and rejoice in their care during the period of our transition to other worlds.
Children are the LIGHT OF LIFE
With every child, HOPE comes to the world
More than anything in the world, more material wealth, they need happy parents who love each other and the whole world
Be like that, they really need you
With Love, Irina Potemkina
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