2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43
And so, rule number two: after a year and a half (attention)
BANALS SHOULD BE SPECIFIED FIRM - BUT FRIENDLY.
And yet - the ban must be permanent - it cannot be canceled. Yes, yes … Below I will tell you how to deal with promises to throw all toys out the window and other threats that we put forward when in anger.
In general, it is important to treat the child with respect.
To do this, setting out a new rule, descend to the level of your son or daughter and look them in the eye.
Remember - firmly, but in a friendly way. Each of these definitions is extremely important.
There is a misconception that we - humans - learn from childhood by trial and error. But if you look more closely - by trial and reward. What does it mean?
Suppose a child - albeit by accident - grabbed and put the toy somewhere in its place. Parents praise him - you are great, how great you did it. This is encouragement.
Then, let's say - mom and dad are putting something together, and the child joined them - and he also folded a couple of things. We pay attention to this too - and happily say: “What a fine fellow you are!”. The main thing here is not to overplay and be sincere - this is really good.
CLEANING, WASHING AND SLEEP
If it's time to clean up, have lunch or sleep, you cannot rudely interrupt the game or suddenly turn off the TV or computer.
Warn the child in advance - so that he is tuned in to a change of activity. Children under 5 years old are not time oriented. You can point to the hand of the clock. But all the same - the baby can quickly forget about your warning. Therefore, make sure that the child who is playing has heard your request. To do this, approach, DROP and present it, again, eye to eye.
If, despite all the warnings and requests, the child cannot stop playing and start cleaning, the mother will have to clean it herself, but be sure to try to involve the baby in work. The secret phrase that promises you success: "Let's do it together."
If your mom is tired or just annoyed, it's important not to drive yourself into a breakdown.
If the parent feels that he is getting turned on, it is advisable to warn the child: “You know, I said 2-3 times and now I’ll scream.” And then the child will be ready for aggression.
Or try to silently take him by the hand and lead him where you need to.
Blackmailing and scaring a child is extremely harmful, but you want to. If the threat to “throw all the toys out the window” comes up, it’s important to explain why you didn’t do it. Otherwise, soon, the child will stop believing your words.
For example: “I told you to remove it many times, and in the end I got very angry. And she was so angry that she even wanted to throw out all the toys - out of anger. But you know, I, of course, am sorry to throw them away - and you? I will not throw them away, but let's clean up as soon as possible."
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