2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43
I believe there is nothing more important in a relationship than mutual support, understanding and acceptance of each other for who people are. I see that recently the idea of changing the other in a relationship is increasingly capturing the minds of people in modern society. And it makes me very sad. Have you tried to change yourself? Change the inner, oldest, most ingrained attitudes of your character?
No, I don’t argue, there are some character traits that can be changed. This is not a sentence. But there are those to which we are too committed. There are some that we don't even notice. I'm talking about the so-called patterns of behavior (behavior patterns). Which were inoculated to us a long time ago (we often can't even tell right away exactly when and by whom exactly). Which we often do not even notice, we just act "on the knurled", as they say. Outwardly, it may look like different actions, different ways, but this leads us to the same rake. I'm talking about these changes!
CHANGE ANOTHER IS NOT ALLOWED! This is a crazy idea! You can try to change yourself. BUT! There is no way to change yourself without first knowing who you are at the moment!
Therefore, my recipe for good (I do not write ideal ones deliberately - ideality is a very subjective question) relations for today:
- Get to know yourself with all your cockroaches. Get to know ALL aspects of your personality - both the "good" and the "bad."
- Make friends with all the facets of your personality, love them, treat yourself first of all, your “good” and “bad” sides with respect and acceptance. Just as a factor that has a place to be and nothing can be done about it.
- Do steps 1 and 2 with your partner;)
Get to know yourself, love and accept yourself! Get to know your partner, love and accept your partner!
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