2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43
The other day in the program Morning in St. Petersburg on the St. Petersburg TV channel, I took part in a broadcast on the topic of psychological aspects of knowledge.
An abbreviated recording of the broadcast can be viewed at the link: How to live your life correctly - how you need or how you want?
And the full version of the source material, which served as the basis for the performance on the air, can be read here:
There was an unusual session with a client: 15 years old, a teenager, a boy, complained about quarantine, self-isolation, the difficulties of the educational process, the OGE, the Unified State Exam, and suddenly asked an unusual question: "Damian, how to live life correctly - how you want or how you want?" To be honest, I was not ready for such a question. We talked a little about knowledge about life, and then moved on to the topic of perceiving knowledge as a psychological phenomenon. For example, rain is a physical phenomenon, but when we get caught in the rain, some of us throw off our shoes and run barefoot in the rain, remembering childhood, while someone frowns and hides under an umbrella in irritation. That is, in this case, rain becomes a mental phenomenon.
So imperceptibly we went deep into childhood, where the perception of knowledge through education takes place for the first time. "What have you done?" - parents blame us and there is a feeling of guilt. "Aren `t you ashamed?" - parents continue to educate us and we bend under the feeling of shame. "Look, if you don't, I will punish you!" - and we begin to hide from the feeling of fear. These three pillars of our upbringing - guilt, shame and fear - penetrate inside us, become part of our essence, soul, psyche, consciousness, thinking, values … …
And they never leave us, making our life dull and gray. Until one day, after awakening from an unusually vivid dream, we suddenly unconsciously direct our gaze not into the coming cloudy day, but begin, out of habit, to peer inside ourselves with caution. Something clicks inside us. If we do not lose this look inside, we can radically change our life, make it bright, colorful, polyphonic, and if we are lucky and bring happiness, we will find our true identity and even find the meaning and purpose of our life.
The chief psychiatrist of the Russian Federation 5 years ago gave the following statistics, and if you think for at least a second and look not at the external outline of these numbers, but at their internal content, we will probably have to retreat and, in order not to slip, sit down and think about the future. of our children: 60% of preschoolers and 80% of high school students have mental abnormalities and disorders. This is the official data. These numbers are very firmly based on our three pillars of parenting.
Suddenly the client started talking about the fact that then he wants to change his life - get off the "whales" and go on a free voyage, but he said that he wanted to be not just successful, but rich. Then we remembered about Tsar Solomon - his power could be the envy of most presidents of leading countries today, and the creativity and wealth of Jobs, Gates, Elon Musk and others is just childish babble. But when Solomon was still unknown and very young, God told him: "Solomon, you can choose whatever you want," and Solomon chose knowledge and wisdom. And along with knowledge, later life showed that he gained both untold riches and unlimited power.
“I understood,” the client said to me at parting: “My knowledge is my true wealth, but I don’t want to receive knowledge that has already been chewed by our teachers. I want to receive unique knowledge, thanks to which I can change my life and become happy and a successful person. How can I get such knowledge? I smiled, thanked and told him that this is the topic of our next session …
Damian of Sinai, leader development coach, expert psychoanalyst, Head of the Center for Strategic Coaching and Psychotherapy
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