2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43
In the comments to my last article
Support groups. Why don't they always help?
I received requests from readers to write articles about the person who was not given support and about the role of moderator in supporting groups.
Today I will focus on the first point.
So. You came with a deep desire for help, but you left even more sorted out for a number of reasons.
What to do?
My recommendations will be about what can be done:
1. Before the group;
2. During the group;
3. After the group.
Before the group.
On the group.
After the group
We are not robots, but living people, also with different responsiveness, different injuries and different understanding of body signals and our emotions. Unfortunately, it is not always possible to track down, answer the offender, understand what kind of help I want. Or understand - I understand, but no one wanted to give, could not.
How can you help yourself in this case?
- go to a psychologist for an individual consultation in order to close the situation with the group and calm down;
- write down all your feelings, why they arose, all the conclusions about the past group. In this case, this exercise can be of great help:
How to recover when emotions run high?
- you may have a desire to tell the presenter about your well-being, your wishes. It is worth considering:
For what purpose will you speak?
If it is important for you to say, to mark the borders, then you can do it in a civilized manner.
If you expect that the presenter will understand you, then you can be disappointed at this moment and hit even more painfully.
So here you need to look at the circumstances.
In any case, it is important to react to feelings, write out, speak.
And live on!
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