Ingredients For Confident Behavior

2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43

Hot as Fresh Pie - An essay from the Confidence Behavior Workshop.

I'll start by answering the question, why is this topic relevant for many people? It can be assumed that we consciously or unconsciously understand that a confident person is an order of magnitude more socially successful than an insecure person. This understanding is born from the observation of the people around, from books describing leaders, films and during periods of personal bout of confident behavior J.

The number of social prizes received by a confident person is quite large, let's list some of them:

· In the field of contacts: it is easy to get acquainted with strangers, enters into and out of communication, is ready to voice his feelings to another person, clearly understands his psychological boundaries.

In the personal sphere: adaptability, purposeful movement towards achieving one's own goals, and not others' (imposed by the rules and values adopted in society, parental directives), increased vitality (a sufficient amount of energy), awareness of one's capabilities and limitations, when making decisions is guided by internal (personal) values, ideals, goals.

The master class program on the topic of confident behavior is based not on the recommendations of the facilitators “do one, do two”, but on exercises that allow participants to get in touch with the topic through emotional immersion, through the personal experiences and experiences of others. It's one thing to hypothetically assume that confidence is … It's another thing to try with your soul to get in touch with the inner phenomenon of confidence.

We started with a wonderful exercise that you can do with friends and acquaintances. Participants threw the ball to each other and the task for the one who had the ball in his hands to show off their achievements. Actually, as expected, there were wonderful, interesting and productive people around (marathon runner, medalist, artist and many other interesting big and small achievements were boasted by the group members). This allowed us to get to know each other, interact, see the leaders of sympathy (participants who were asked the maximum number of questions) and lead the participants to the fact that one of the components of confident behavior is competence (availability of knowledge and experience necessary for effective activity in a given subject area).

The next step, the participants chose the image of a famous person, which is associated with confident behavior. Then they discussed their choices in small groups, after which they introduced their characters on stage. We saw monologues by famous politicians of the present and past, as well as professionals in their field. The participants shared their feelings and experiences from the role they played on stage. How does it feel to be a famous person? The feeling that most of the "artists" had was an increase in tone, excitement and a feeling of greater confidence. Those. we can assume that the feeling of confidence can grow when there is an adherence to something “greater” - criticality, responsibility decreases, and due to this, determination and understanding increases that the path of “comrade Bolsheviks” is chosen correctly.

The culmination of the meeting was the construction of a sculpture of gender-sensitive ingredients of confidence, one built by female hands and the other by male hands. Let me add a little comment on the symbolic meanings of the constituents of confidence.

The constituents of the sculpture of confidence # 1 are the female version

· Posture. The smoother your posture, the younger you look, the more confident you are in the eyes of others.

· Sight. In fiction, a lot of attention is paid to how a person looks. For example: a sharp, piercing, lively look; smart looking eyes; sad look. We often use such observations of the interlocutor in communication with loved ones and strangers. One executive suggested recruiting “by the glow of the tungsten filament in the eyes,” a great metaphor. Psychologists believe that the eyes themselves cannot express something; rather, information is perceived and read in a complex way - a look, facial muscles, corners of the lips, wrinkles.

· Smile. A very important factor to win over the interlocutor or audience, but not related to confident behavior.

· Mind. Since it is related to the competence we talked about above, it can be considered an important factor. However, let's remember the wonderful film "Forest Gump", where the main character was mentally retarded, but very confident person. Therefore, it is more correct to include knowledge, skills, skills and values in sculpture.

· Soul. General and therefore general and incomprehensible component of sculpture, which requires clarification. If you remember, then psychology is the science of the soul.

Components of the sculpture of confidence # 2 male version

· Power. Not required as part of confident behavior. How many anxious, suspicious people are there in power? Outwardly, it can be perceived that power gives confidence, but there can be different things in a person's soul. Perhaps this thought arises from the tradition of worship?

· Calmness. It is a rare occurrence when power and tranquility are near. Rather, the one exposed by the power is full of anxiety associated with its retention.

· Ambition “Walking around, circular motion; ambition, vanity. Has little to do with confident behavior. Rather, it is about the presence of internal motives for achieving goals.

Summing up the sculptures, we can conclude that the participants saw more external attributes and less internal content in the confidence components.

So let's see what sculpture of confident behavior the hosts are proposing:

· Values. They act as the basis of the spiritual skeleton of the personality and determine its behavior.

· Emotional intelligence, in terms of understanding the motives of their behavior and the behavior of other people.

· Will.

· Decisiveness.

· Communicative competence.