2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43
Do it, go there, take it away, bring it, don’t snap back and so on … A typical situation of family relations and everything seems to be fine if we accept it as the norm, but is this the norm?
Absolutely not, the relationship should be pleasant for you or if it is violent, especially when it comes to relationships with parents. This is a difficult topic at any age, be you 20 or 35, mom will still shout, put on a hat
So what to do when your relationship with your parents leaves a lot to be desired?
First you need to understand if the game is worth the candle? That is, to think about whether you have the strength and resources to go to war with conflicts, bombard with reproaches and counterattacks in defending your opinion. They are parents and parents in Africa, and as long as we are weak and insecure, we will lose, but this does not mean that everything is lost, it means that we need to change the strategy. Instead of attacking, go into observation, start studying yourself and your reactions. Focus not on them, but on yourself on your I.
Pay attention to your life principles, what they are, why did you choose these. Right after reading, sit down and write them down and justify why you chose them, what are the pros and there is no need to be an ardent fanatic of ideological concepts, so feel free to list the cons.
After that, take care of yourself, your personality. Most often parental words hurt us in the most painful places. Use this to reveal your weaknesses and take care of them, heal your wounds, understand what kind of feelings are hidden inside and as soon as you know them in person, it will become easier for you with how you can express them. If you have a problem with expressing and releasing feelings, write to me about it, and I will definitely write about it and give a couple of recommendations.
The next important point is the focus of your attention not on the minuses, but just on the pluses, start greedily collecting your resources, write 100 points that pleases you, what brings you pleasure and cheers you up. Of course, at first glance, it seems that this is so much, but think about how little you know about yourself, that just 100 points seems like a whole million, so go ahead.
And in the end, when a more holistic picture of your world begins to emerge, you will look at your relationship with your parents and their grumbling about a hat in a completely different way. Yes, yes, my mother still talks to me about her, but now it makes me tender, and once it made me very angry. Remember that your reactions to others are in your hands.
Good luck, I believe you will succeed!
And if you need support and you are confused in some question, make an appointment, and we will unravel even the most confusing situations.
See you
Psychologist Anna
Recommended:
Women Who Endure The Brain
The main negative trait of women, many men call the tendency to "carry the brain" . Often men who have been married and are no longer in a hurry to go there explain their unwillingness in this way: I don’t want my brain to be taken out.
One Cannot Endure To Say, Or Again About The Boundaries
The husband constantly takes your favorite washcloth and washes anything with it. A colleague drinks a stinky Pickwick from your china cup without asking. Sister periodically dives into your closet and goes on a date in your new skirt and returns it in suspicious spots.
Serge Ginger. Female Brain And Male Brain
Today you are in luck - you will have two lectures. One for women; the other is for men! In fact, I've already started: right now, women and men are hearing different messages! Hearing with both hemispheres For example - in general, of course, (with many individual variations) - women perceive my voice twice as loud (more precisely, 2, 3 times louder) than men.
Accept Or Endure: What's The Difference?
Lord, give me peace of mind to accept what I cannot change courage - to change what I can, and wisdom - always to distinguish the first from the second. This prayer for peace of mind is known to many. In Russia, she became famous in the 70s of the last century thanks to the translation of the novel by Kurt Vonnegut "
To Endure Or Not To Endure?
Once upon a time, when I was in my early twenties, I knew how to endure. I suffered insults from my husband, a bad attitude towards myself. I endured what was unpleasant for me. And I was very proud of it - I can endure! I'm so patient
