2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43
I was very emotional and hot-tempered as a child. My reaction to something went off scale and I was carried without any brakes.
Of course, after the release of negative emotions, relief came, which is comparable to a balloon that was pumped and it burst.
Sound familiar?
I often heard from relatives, friends, acquaintances and not even very acquaintances:
🎯 "you're a girl, you can't be so angry"
🎯 "that you are crying like a little one, stop it!";
🎯 “Yes, calm down!”;
🎯 "stop getting angry immediately";
🎯 "you are so ugly when you are angry";
🎯 “it is indecent to behave this way”;
🎯 "if you scream, cry, be capricious, then you will be left alone, or no one will be friends with you", etc.
All this influenced the prohibition of emotions and led to the inability to understand, accept, express them. It was easier to endure everything, shut up and forget about it. It is so convenient for many when you are quiet, obedient, calm.
But inside, then emotions conduct their own dialogue. If they are not expressed environmentally for themselves and others, they will still find their way out.
And they found a way out for me through frequent sore throat illnesses (once every 3 months, and then every month) 🙈
As a result, I lost my tonsils, but this did not help me much to stop hurting! Sore throat and persistent bronchitis accompanied me until I began to work towards resolving my issue with a psychologist and, at the age of 29, study:
✔ recognize emotions;
✔ understand them;
✔ accept;
✔ express environmentally friendly towards yourself and others, in a constructive form of self-messages (I wrote about this technique in a previous article).😉
Only then did I see the result - the diseases decreased 5 times for sure!
I will not go into details of how everything happens. I would only recommend going to google to read about psychosomatics and the connection of symptoms with our emotional, psychological state in general. I am sure you will find there a lot of interesting things that have long been scientifically proven!
To this day, I work with my emotions. After all, the habit of the unconscious "it is better to shut up" is deeply rooted and sometimes works - the main thing is to realize and correct it in time.
There are no good or bad emotions! They all have the right to be!
With love❤ Irina Gnelitskaya
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