2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43
The victim of a narcissist quickly realizes that the relationship with him is a continuous torment. But he cannot finish them due to such tricks of the abuser:
Honeymoon
The narcissist constantly walks in the circle of the rapist:
honeymoon➡voltage➡explosion.
As soon as you want to leave him, he activates the romantic phase and becomes ideal: he performs in all his narcissistic glory, falls asleep with gifts, takes him to restaurants, gives money and promises to improve. You start to believe in change and think that you will never find anyone better. And his efforts feed your thoughts.
Manipulation and threats
Narcissus says (broadcasts): "If you leave, you will not live on your own." And you feel helpless and afraid: "How am I without him?" After all, he decides and does everything. For example, she organizes trips, pays for housing, buys tickets and convinces her that it is very difficult and you cannot cope with it.
The narcissist destroys your faith in yourself and instills that you are untenable. And you’re afraid that you cannot do without it, so don’t leave.
Your benefits
He solves all household issues and gives money. You can not work and spend it as you wish. Although later you listen to reproaches, it is still convenient for you - you are used to adapting to his illogical and vague rules.
He constantly reminds of the benefits: If you leave, how will you buy these things? Who will take you? Who will renovate? You get lost and think: "Really, how am I without it? I can't do it myself. He gives me so much."
He will surely convince that no one besides him will care so much and do so much for you.
Pressure on pity
This is his most recent weapon. He talks about how bad he is without you; that he is sick and will not survive without you. Convinces that he understood everything. He asks for forgiveness and begs to stay. May threaten suicide.
You begin to feel guilty about ruining the relationship (even worse if the family) and dooming him to suffering.
❗Narcissus will never mend. All his words and promises are false. He manipulates and plays on feelings, but as soon as you relax, you will immediately receive a stab in the back. His actions are illogical and unpredictable. So take care of yourself. Distance yourself.
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