2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43
We got the method of upbringing … The belt is a symbol of authority, strength, parenting. “I was in my childhood and I will beat”, “And what else, if not a belt, to educate? They are unpunished!”,“If he is completely loose with me, should I look at him? My husband over there was clearly undershot in childhood! It is necessary to whip to knock out all the nonsense."
What a pity all the same, the belt! Such a functional and useful thing! And then the punishment …
Probably a million articles have already been written on the topic of punishment with a belt. And all of them, as a rule, cause a stormy excitement of the dispute among parents.
Let's be clear.
Want to thrash with a belt? Beat! Beat it in a way that really kicks out the crap. Just start with yourself. Ask your child to punish you for sometimes not taking the time to talk to him. Ask him to pour you in and for the fact that you have no desire to hug the child and so, in an embrace with him, spend the whole evening … at least 3 minutes! Oh, yes, let him ask you a belt for the fact that sometimes you have to communicate for hours on the phone with girlfriends or friends, instructing them on "how to live."
Let him sprinkle you when he is simply offended, sad or hard, when something else does not give him peace of mind and a feeling of being safe. In every difficult case for him, let him take the belt.
And we do just that … a belt is a way to solve all that with which we come from work in the evening. Furious possession of the belt - our grievances, our pain, our weakness, our annoyance, our everyday difficulties, which we noticed in the face of the child.
Before you beat a child or give him a drink, think about what you really want - to cope with your problems or to teach your child a lesson for a minor offense? Do you want to deal with your difficulties and relax? Ask your family members for 15 minutes for a bath or contrast shower. And yes, do not forget with you a radio or a player of your favorite music.
Great, isn't it? The family is whole, the child is happy, in your arms and the feeling of mother's warm lips on her cheek and father's hands on her shoulders. And quietly, how quietly! The main thing is that the soul is quiet and the conscience does not torment, they say, why are you doing this to him?
For education - you need to talk, you need to be friends. You can't earn authority with a child with a belt … Earn the child's authority by means available to yourself and him - and he will try to "be better", so to speak.
And yes, pay attention to what your child wants. Sometimes, children "ask for", really! Paradoxically, for children, physical pain after being noticed is also a joy. After all, we saw them, heard them! Attention was given! Let it be! Well, and once or twice "suffered" pain - then it's already a habit. Even so, but to feel that mom and dad are alive and communicate with him, albeit in such a strange language …
Why did you remove the belt? Why wear pants? And beat! Beat something with your favorite child in the evening?
That's the same.
Want a belt? Yes please. And there is nothing to argue about the obvious.
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