2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43
One of the most pressing and popular issues that people have been discussing in recent times is the issue of self-love. It seems that there is especially nothing to talk about, it is useful to love yourself. However, in reality it is not so easy to do it, and to do it all the time.
Often, the main or important obstacle to the normalization of relations with oneself is the fact that people find it difficult and unaccustomed to think well of themselves. It would seem what an absurdity, but, nevertheless, it is much easier for many to think of themselves in a negative way. Scold yourself for mistakes, but you can see them as part of the experience. Insult and belittle your own achievements and results.
At the same time, people consider such an attitude quite reasonable. After all, if you praise yourself, you will become an egoist, or even worse. It is not customary for us to praise ourselves, and most importantly enjoy such praise. Because you will become narcissistic, and this is a priori unacceptable.
But it is the acceptance of oneself and understanding of oneself, one's desires that makes a person confident. You have noticed that truly confident people are extremely rarely dissatisfied with something in themselves, or do not accept something in themselves, from the word at all. They are well aware of possible shortcomings, but they work quite calmly on them.
Have you ever wondered how you handle your successes? More often than not, tell yourself that you are a great fellow and limit yourself to this. But you deserve more, you worked, tried, overcame difficulties (even overcame your innate laziness). Have achieved something important for you and in the end, well done and that's it !? Don't you deserve more?
In many ways, our attitude towards ourselves and that very love depends on what and how we think about ourselves. It's no secret that many have been taught from childhood to treat themselves and think of themselves with excessive modesty, to put it mildly. And now remember the school curriculum: "Man - this sounds proudly." It is worth remembering this at least sometimes.
Our thoughts often give rise to our feelings, so why not start thinking positively about yourself, not justifying the stupidity that we sometimes do, but with understanding and acceptance. After all, on our entire planet there is no other like you, does not exist. You are unique! And yet, you yourself are in a single copy, this is enough to treat yourself more carefully.
When a person treats himself with acceptance, understanding (it is important to understand yourself), respect and love, a belief is formed that he is okay. And this leads to the fact that he begins to better build relationships with others, and these relationships do not burden him, but bring pleasure. But it all starts with thinking about yourself. Try to honestly answer the question: "What do I think of myself?" How much do you love yourself?
Live with joy! Anton Chernykh.
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