Psychologist Consultation. Communication Experience

2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43

Sometimes people come to the reception who have a sad experience of communicating with a psychologist. Of course, this experience is oppressive and one does not want to repeat it. But for some reason it repeats itself. It seems to me that in this case it is necessary first of all to admit that everyone has a sad experience of relationships, always and everywhere. Whether it's the relationship between a client and a psychologist, a man and a woman, a boss and an employee, a parent and a child. Someone has more of this sad experience, someone less, but everyone has their own. Remember, L. N. Tolstoy "All happy families are equally happy, every unhappy family is unhappy in its own way."

And what does each of us consider to be a sad experience of consulting a psychologist?

This is a separate subject for discussion. And the fact that for one such is certainly, for another does not seem so. Obviously, the degree of "sadness" of the experience is different for everyone. But regardless of it, in my opinion, sometimes we need a sad experience, that's why we get it. To recycle and move on. And in this sense, the psychologist-client relationship is no different from others. The situation is always for two. When two people need a "sad" experience, they inevitably get it.

The question is, how do they manage this experience further. You can, say, be offended by all psychologists and generally stop moving in this direction. Which often happens. And you can, in my opinion, differently.

Have you ever tried to make lemonade from lemon? When we squeeze the juice out of the lemon, crush the zest, add water and sugar, filter out the sediment and take the first sip of this magical cleansing drink, we have already forgotten that the source of our pleasure is sour lemon. But lemonade is easier: there may be one recipe for everyone! But for processing the sad experience, everyone has their own recipe.

But it seems to me that the main thing is to decide for yourself whether to go further with the burden of sad experience. Or is it time to dump it?

Have you noticed that some people, and there are many of them, move as if they have an unreasonably heavy bag of sour lemons behind them. But they are so used to him that they cannot immediately agree to part with him.

Sometimes they go to a psychologist not to solve a problem, but simply to complain. What a heavy bag, what sour lemons !! And the point, in my opinion, is not in the professionalism of the psychologist, as it might seem at first, but in the client's readiness to throw off this bag, on the one hand, and the psychologist's readiness to accept the client's choice, on the other. If this is not the case, a sad experience awaits us around the corner again.

The most important thing is to find the ingredients of your own recipe for processing green lemons of "sad experience" into a divine drink of enjoying life! And if in this understanding the client and the psychologist are united, then success is guaranteed!