Course On Success

2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43

It's quite interesting how the experience of our life affects our future. Our level of ambition depends on our past achievements. We already roughly know about what we can handle and what is beyond our capabilities. And we assume our success in the things we are used to, and failure in those about which others say to us: “You are strong (strong)! You can handle it. " We, when assessing the past "merits", often answer: "I am smart (smart), I will not even undertake." And we choose our own affairs, in which we certainly will not screw up

True, there seems to be nothing to be proud of after they have been completed. The usual routine. To aim for more, (to increase your level of aspirations), but on what basis? There have been no particular successes in the past. Seems. Or were they?

Sometimes you wonder how “everything is in our head”! The same events are viewed differently by different people. For some, getting a red diploma is a common, self-evident event, while for others, simply graduating from an educational institution (so that they are not expelled) is a great success.

Objectively judging the success of other people is a thankless task. If you ask these two former students about their personal success, then the one who avoided expulsion will say about himself that he is a successful "lucky", and the one with red crusts - that these crusts were expected, he did not achieve anything special. So it turns out that the happier (why is success in general, if not for happiness in life?) Is the "idiot". He at least rejoices at his Success!

Its advantage is also that this unlucky (successful?) Student, with a positive attitude to his achievements, develops a habit of being successful. Nobody canceled positive reinforcement, behaviorism, as well as the teachings of I. P. Pavlova, remember?

We often pass our own success through our own fingers. It flows away like sand, unnoticed by us. We "merge" ourselves, and then we sin against everyone in the world.

Here, remember the recently successfully completed business. Any business that can be considered a success. Or a case that “turned out as you planned,” if you don't yet use the word “success” to measure your accomplishments.

Ask yourself these questions:

How have I responded to my success?

Could the success in this matter be at least partially attributed to yourself?

How did I support myself in pursuit of my goal (success)?

Was it possible for me to additionally support myself in connection with the desire for success in this case or with the real achievement of success in it?

We often blame our parents. We were not raised that way, we were not praised. No support was given. This is all true. Maybe. But it's a matter of the past, and childhood cannot be returned. It's time to give yourself support. And develop the habit of achieving success. And rejoice in him. (Positive reinforcement, if you take cognitive-behavioral therapy, with your joy make the "order" of the Universe for similar events, if you take the New Age).

You can enjoy a cup of coffee in the morning, which your foresight helped you to get - you bought all the products in the evening. And you have a coffee pot. And milk, too. For some, a cup of coffee in the morning is a failed goal. And you have success! Do you know how happy I was today that there was cream in the fridge, bought "just in case"? They all drank milk yesterday, and the cream, as if by magic, was found! “Ta-dam! I get what I want, even if in a slightly different way, which is even tastier,”- I settled such a thought-form inside myself this morning. Naively, do you think?….

Don't want to enjoy a cup of coffee in the morning? Are you ready to enjoy only something significant? Will inflated goals make you happy? What if it takes years to reach such a goal? Well, for example, the same honors. It will take several years to wait. And to rejoice at every exam passed…. "Pfff … Well this is a routine …", - someone will say. Although it is from routine goals that the big Goal is formed, the achievement of which will bring you joy.

More precisely, you think what will bring. Such an important goal for you will simply have to "put a pig on you" fatter. You, biting the bit and not seeing obstacles, or rather, sweeping them away on your way, go to the cherished goal. And at the end of the path, some trifle can confuse all your cards. Overlooked. Not taken into account. We missed it. They swelled somewhere along the way.

And the diploma is NOT red. Horror, horror! Terrible horror, I would say. After all, this is a failure! Is not it? Was it worth so hard to fail the success? And again "face in the dirt", like a loser. And how now to get out, or rather, to pull yourself out of the next "galoshes" by the scruff?

Just remember (or learn) that there is NO Absolute Success. Nobody. Every success and every failure cannot be regarded as unconditional and absolute.

A person always succeeds in doing something, but fails to do something. Even the one who received the coveted crusts failed in some way. For example, he missed a lucrative offer, not mastering it in the process of a furious study.

Each time it is worth evaluating the measure of your success and the share of failure in each case. Concentrate only on success - wear rose-colored glasses. On failures - black. Information about your own successes is needed for self-motivation, about failures - for experience, do not step on the same rake. Not reacting in any way to the state of your affairs means living a boring life where nothing happens. No ups or downs. But still in our head!

To begin with (in order to have a starting point), it would be good to understand what exactly you will consider your success. What achievement will bring you joy (happiness). On the eve of spring, I can assume that some of the answers will concern harmony. Specifically - "dropped kilos". I can understand women's greed in an effort to lose 20 kilograms.

Now, you go to the gym for a week. There is a lot of sweat, there is still little willpower. As well as weight loss. How many are there? Gram 500? Well, where is the success?

Let's figure it out together.

Is it all "failed"? Perhaps you don't see the obvious?

1. Twenty kilos cannot be driven off in one day. And even in one week. 300 grams is a success. Its beginning. Anyway, you have NOT gained weight, but you could.
2. Muscle is more dense than fat. Therefore, the weight can "stand" in place.
3. The volumes have not decreased since the muscles have already grown, and the fat has not yet "burned".
4. Well, and so on.

And the share of failure…. Well, well … If you were more competent in the exercise and nutrition, you could have achieved more in this week. Experience from the "share of failure in this matter" - it is necessary to improve sports literacy.

You can now set many goals for 500 grams. Forty, if I'm not mistaken. And every week, celebrate the magnitude of success, and analyze what could have been done better.

Besides, I know how it happens, about 20 kilos. Holidays always interfere with resetting them "in a year". “Well, I'll start later. The year is ahead. " And, before they had time to look back, the year flew by. Twenty kilos in place, and five more your body took prisoner.

Perhaps every time you Do not achieve GREATLY overestimated goals, and each next "failure of a great goal" strengthens you in the thought of your own failure, inability.

However, I started talking about the figure by the summer because this example is great for training. Practice to achieve success. Because just reading is certainly not enough to change your habits. It is advisable to do this in a circle of like-minded people, and today many train regularly and. And further, extend Success to other areas of your life.