2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43
"How much longer do you need to rake your past experience in order to finally go to zero and live completely in your present?"
Allow me to "YOU", without curtsies, but with respect!
Take five minutes to complete the exercise, then return to the text
Stand up.
Feel your body.
Feel your feet hitting the ground.
Listen to your bodily sensations here and now.
Imagine the blood running through your veins.
Pay attention to your breathing.
Open your eyes - look at the world around you.
Consider what colors it is painted in - the sky, trees, flowers, houses.
Ask yourself - how do I feel now?
What is my heart talking about?
Am I worried? Peaceful? Excited? Peaceful?
What tasks does my mind solve?
What am I thinking about?
How do you feel, feel, worry?
I am sure much better.
Because you were in a resource state - the focus of attention was directed to yourself in the present tense.
It's like checking launch systems before launching a rocket into space. A great way to make sure I'm okay! and you are ready to move on towards your goals.
This is different from that mental gum, from the past or the future, that fills our consciousness every day. In computer terms, viruses.
For example: "this person (people) are plotting something evil against me" or "I have already tried it and it did not work out for me." This kind of thoughts, in their various variations, swarm in our minds every day.
Where do our destructive thoughts and deeds come from?
A person is born with a set of innate physical and mental characteristics. Height, weight, reaction speed, temperament, ability, thinking and many other characteristics. From the moment of conception, he is influenced by his social environment. Mom, dad, grandmother, grandfather and other relatives - encourages and punishes the child. The kid gets involved in social life. Tries to adapt to the external environment. Experiencing recurrent crises. To survive, he develops behavioral stereotypes - role models.
Our mind processes the experience gained and forms attitudes - our vision of cause and effect relationships. Now we think we know the answer to the question - what is good and what is bad.
But, unfortunately, we internalize destructive roles too. For example, if something doesn't go the way I want, I shut up and withdraw. And if you try to outline this role in one word, it will turn out - "gloomy". Over time, this role can acquire even more formidable outlines of "unsociability". Because of what a person can feel mental suffering, on the one hand, very much thirst for contact with other people, and on the other hand, he cannot imagine how to do it.
The good news for the human race is that there is no concept of time for the unconscious (the closet where our roles are kept). There is no past, there is only the present and changes are possible in it.
That is, the traumatic situation due to which the destructive behavioral model was formed can be identified, realized and rewritten. In the magical world of the unconscious, you can write a new experience of relationship, behavior.
Express course on shedding old skins.
Take a notebook and pen
Do the exercise.
1. Realize and acknowledge the presence of mental discomfort.
2. Think back to your life. Emphasize what brought joy, inspiration, and a sense of flow (increased strength, high concentration, satisfaction).
3. Try to honestly, sincerely want to live differently.
4. Imagine a new future. How will it change your life? Styling? Will it affect the relationship with loved ones?
5. If the future presented by you - energizes, prompts to action, carries a positive emotional charge, start planning. The golden rule is that an elephant can only be eaten in slices. Load yourself up to your strength, remember it is better to take a step on the way to your goal every day than to overload and leave the race.
In conclusion, I want to remind and hint that in many tales the main character needed an assistant to achieve the desired goals. The middle one is the only resource for personal change.
Martin Buber said that knowledge I, possibly through contact with YOU.
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