2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43
When will my life change? People ask this question quite often. Especially when it comes to relationships. Often, by change, people mean that someone will appear, and everything will work out right away, like in a fairy tale.
But a strange thing, time passes, but no changes occur, a companion or companion is not found, the husband or wife continues to treat in the old way. But man is waiting.
This is such a long process, in fact, it is already a state of constant waiting. At the same time, you yourself do nothing, froze in place. The belief that everything should change by itself, without your participation, gradually becomes an excuse for your fears and inaction.
Only fatigue from such an expectation grows, and you also feel that there is so much negativity inside you from unfulfilled expectations that sometimes it seems that you will be torn from the inside. But you calm down, you come up with reasons to wait a little longer.
And waiting, meanwhile, kills your desires. Often it is not only difficult to formulate a goal, but also an ambush with desires. It is already difficult to say specifically what you want, and most importantly, why you need it.
There is a convenient excuse, you talk about your childhood traumas, about the fact that your parents did not give you something, took away something. Well, you don't have that model of relationships that others got in childhood, based on the example of parents. Or there is, but you don't like it. It also happens.
But you are already an adult, you can work out these tasks, learn, create your own model of cool relationships. Change, if you cannot cope on your own, contact the specialists. But you do not do this, you continue to wait for someone who will change your life for you. It's easier and more familiar this way.
And also, it is very convenient, if this "someone" does not succeed, and you do not find happiness, then you can blame him for this. Of course, you will not be sweet, but after all, it is his fault that nothing happened. And in reality, this is what happens sometimes.
The thought appears and grows stronger that little depends on you at all. The circumstances are like that, and you have no power over them. And all that remains for you is to obediently wait. Just what?
I know from myself how uncomfortable it can be to take responsibility. But only I myself can be the author of what is happening to me. Precisely by the author, not an expectant character. And in order to turn from such a character into an author, you first have to change yourself.
Life will change only if you start to change. Remember how your world changed when you learned to walk as a child. You fell, but got up, because you were interested, and you understood that you wanted and needed to learn to walk. More options will appear. You already knew then that by being able to walk yourself, you could do much more. You were helped, but you overcame most of the difficulties yourself. This is your victory.
Likewise, with life and relationships, before you get the result, you have to fall, but after that you again change something in yourself (you didn't try to change the floor of the room when you learned to walk). You change yourself not for someone else, but for yourself, in order to feel that very victory again, because this is the most delicious feeling.
Live with joy! Anton Chernykh.
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