2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43
How many wonderful women are around, who are: clever, and beautiful, and an athlete, and a member of the Komsomol. Women who raised their children, created their own wonderful home, learned to live in a happy partnership or in splendid isolation and finally found an idea for their own development and … were terrified of their own unprecedented courage! What if I can't? What if I don’t become successful? What if I am convicted?
The state resembles adolescence, when strength and a burning desire appeared to jump out from under the parental wing into the open, and the spirit is not enough for all the madness. Previously, all the energy and strength went to the children and the husband, and I always knew how to do it and how to do it right. And now it is so awkward and scary to stand at a crossroads, not to understand, not to be able, not to know, to knock, having absolutely no idea what awaits there behind the new door.
You open the Internet, and there everyone has been able to do everything for a long time, they move forward, you alone are still at home. And you are so many years old, should you start? And then my mother insists that she needs to earn money for her old age, my father demands decisive action, my husband observes your suffering incomprehensively, and my friends shrug their shoulders in surprise, sticking the diagnosis: "he is mad with fat." What to do?
1. Calm down. You are not alone with your fears. Each of us goes through similar stages, each goes through doubts, insecurity and fear, some more, some less. Even those who, as you think, know everything, can, can.
2. Look for those who have already gone through this, who can share their experiences, who can support and inspire by personal example. Feel free to ask for help from coaches, psychologists, trainers and consultants. (Friends and relatives rarely understand what you are about, it is better to notify them when you yourself already believe in success)
3. "And it will pass!" - eternal wisdom. Once the painful adolescence has passed, family crises and the crisis of 40 years have passed successfully. And this fear is not endless.
4. Recall everything! Write down a list of things that you can be proud of in your life, starting with the fact that it was this combination of genes that once won natural selection, and you were born! A list of your skills, talents, unique features, catch phrases, cities you have visited, everything that made you happy and amused. All this will become your support, revive memories, help to straighten your shoulders.
5. Try to find phrases to which you react painfully, disassemble them into words and letters, try to understand why they hurt so much, what pain they carry in themselves and what they want to talk about.
6. Learn the art of small steps. Take at least one step more today than you did yesterday. Don't look far ahead. Everything takes time and planned actions.
7. Don't be afraid to be imperfect. Make your own mistakes, rejoice in them, draw conclusions and try again. You have probably already accomplished a lot in your life, which will forever remain your personal victory! For all you have long been an ideal, it's time to believe in yourself!
8. Find new hobbies, new directions, develop new talents and skills. And it doesn't matter that someone is better and has already reached some heights. Enjoy the process, enjoy every minute spent with pleasure!
Happiness to be yourself! Experiencing this state is the main thing to which you can devote your life!
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