2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43
I know it's hard to get sick. And it can be just as difficult to ask for help. But perhaps the most difficult thing is to realize that you need help. What help is needed and from whom.
Diabetics face the same challenges as people without diabetes. We, too, often find it difficult to sort out our relationships with parents, with children (who have them). We also get confused in relationships with our boyfriends / girls, husbands / wives, with our partners (leave or stay, change or change). We face difficulties when choosing a profession, when deciding whether to stay in this job or leave when we are sick of work, when it is no longer a joy (or has always been such), and there is no other income and we have not done anything else in our life. except for this work.
What distinguishes a diabetic from a non-diabetic in experience, living, in solving all these difficulties?
Most often, the fact that a diabetic (and, in principle, any other person who has some kind of chronic disease) will more likely associate their difficulties with their own disease. Of course, any chronic disease, and even more so diabetes, imposes a certain shade on life. A person looks at life, at himself in life, at others as if through the prism of his disease. As a diabetic, I often face the fact that when I go to the doctor (on any issue) I try not to say that I have diabetes, “not to admit it”. Because if you say that you have diabetes, you get the impression that it explains absolutely everything. “Does your arm hurt? So this is from diabetes!”,“Tooth? Throat? Left heel? Runny nose? …. It's all from diabetes. And they don't investigate the real problem. Sorry for the horrors and passions, but I even saw the death certificate, where the cause of death was diabetes. But this is nonsense. Complications - yes, but not diabetes itself!
I can say that diabetics themselves often link their diabetes to just about anything. “Do you have a relationship with anyone? I have diabetes.” “Can't find a normal job? I have diabetes.” "What children?! I have diabetes !!!"
But this is not true. Not always true.
Of course, if diabetes has already given fatal complications, this is more difficult. But if there are no complications or they are not significant, then it is definitely not a matter of diabetes, but of the person's attitude to diabetes, to himself, to life, etc.
Diabetes cannot be ignored - he does not forgive it. But it is also important to notice the person behind this diabetes. It is not worth explaining everything to diabetes. Perhaps this particular job, this particular relationship is your choice.
The work of the psychologist in this case may be to help the client find the true pain point, the "gap" in the client's life, to investigate where the "congestion" of energy occurs, what stops him (the client) in resolving his problems, to see what he does for what he does or does not do and why. Help the client to notice their choice to do or not do something. Taking responsibility for your choices (for a diabetic, this is often extremely difficult). Help with discovering your true feelings, desires and needs. Be near.
But it is important to always understand that the help of a psychologist is like crutches to a one-legged person. Without it, he will be able to cross the bridge, but it will be more difficult, longer, possibly more painful, there will be more bumps. But without the desire of the person himself, he will not get anywhere with crutches.
And the choice may be to notice or not notice their difficulties, to ask or not to ask for help. Any step or stop you make is your choice.
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