2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43
Either because of the constellation of the ephemeral Gemini and the Air element, or because of the accumulated personal qualities, but I easily support everyone who is dear and close to me, everyone with whom I have some kind of energetic, spiritual connection.
In general, this article is not about me, but about the emotional poverty and stinginess that people like me face.
When we support and participate in the lives of loved ones, we do it. sincerely … It's not about the comfortable person syndrome. If a healthy mature person shows interest, care, and respect for his loved ones, then certainly not in order to be pleasing and comfortable.
In a mature self-sufficient personality, empathy is quite well developed, it is presented in the form of the ability to consciously, timely, environmentally empathize and support their relatives, friends, and lovers. Otherwise, why do we need friends, relatives, loved ones ?! How can we experience the joy of communicating with our soul mate?
In neurophysiology in the 1990s, the hypothesis of perception-action and the term "mirror neurons" supported the research of Italian scientists.
According to this hypothesis, if we observe some action or state of another person, the same regions are excited in our brain as if we felt or acted ourselves. That is, the person is in pain and we understand that we want to alleviate his suffering.
If you look more bluntly, empathy is emotional responsiveness, colored by the nuances of various psycho-emotional states. And there is an obvious pattern a person who has gone through global life trials, suffering, and who managed to preserve human highly spiritual principles, is more sensitive, and not dry, to the perception of people, their aspirations and sufferings. With the escalation of internal conflict, an overly vulnerable Ego (vanity, arrogance, in general - immature conflict), a person loses the ability to experience not only deep feelings, but also to express emotions and support other people.
And again, back to the research base
The topic of emotional impoverishment is a complex one. In most sources, the problem of alexithymia as a psychosomatic disorder associated with the inability of a person to orally express his emotions, discovered in 1973 by P. Syphneos, is presented not as a disease and is not even included in ICD10, but as a feature of the nervous system.
In general, with a competent approach, a favorable correction of this condition is quite possible.
However, this context has its own pitfalls. Many people, traumatized and staying "in the comfort zone", began to abuse the concept of "alexithymia", referring to their emotional coldness. Which, of course, leads to complications in interpersonal relationships. It was no coincidence that I brought a fact from neurophysiology about mirror neurons. The fact is that empathy is not at all a manifestation of "weakness", "calf tenderness", but this is precisely our proto-language, something that helped us survive even in the most difficult historical conditions, feel significant for this world, and also understand another person.
And if you do not take into account the term "alexithymia" solely in order to "defend" by it, then in this state of emotional coldness and even insensitivity, the accumulated and suppressed anger is hidden for years, a ban on the expression of emotions, traumatic insults and humiliations that provoke a person to literally "exclude "emotions and feelings from my life, turn into a" robot ", into a" mask ", thereby losing a human face.
The absence and lack of manifestation of emotions, refusal to "feel", love, rejoice, sadness, crying leads to severe mental stress and exacerbation of a number of diseases. Of course, an adequate and correct understanding that a person is emotionally alive, that he is able to experience different emotions (joy and sadness), is able to fix them and be aware, is the most important factor for the development of the emotional sphere of a person.
Understanding and comprehending that a person is only "playing" an "iceberg" or, conversely, he is constantly enjoying life, filling up the news feed or messengers with optimistic statuses and radiant photos, is also necessary to study the psycho-emotional picture of the personality, since in both cases we are talking about serious mental health problems of a person and his deliberate flight from reality.
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