Bubble Of Personal Space

2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43

Equestrian sport makes you look at many things in a new way. They tied two horses next to each other. It would seem that what a difference. But in a horse herd everything is not simple! There is a strict order! Each horse has its own status.

There is the head of the herd and he has two deputies, the deputies also have their deputies and further to the end of the list. Horses that were tied next to each other had different status and one of them, a purebred sports pony, constantly pushed aside a larger, but alas, not a purebred horse. Not allowing her to come close to me. I was very interested and I asked the coach what it meant.

The trainer explained that each horse has a bubble of personal space and that another horse can only come close to her by invitation. If the bubble of personal space is violated without an invitation, this can be a cause of conflict. Moreover, an animal with a higher status will never tolerate an animal with a lower status nearby.

I had to untie the super purebred pony and tie it far enough away from the non-purebred filly. The horse lady immediately calmed down! But in our human society the same thing happens! After all, we also have a bubble of personal space and we, too, are unpleasant for certain people. We just do not demonstrate. it's so aggressive!

Imagine your bubble of personal space!

What is he?

What colour is he?

How big is it?

Are you comfortable in this bubble?

How do you perceive the world beyond the bubble?

Now make a list of people who annoy you for no good reason.

Imagine that they, too, are in their bubbles of personal space.

See how your bubbles of personal space interact with each other.

Describe this interaction or draw!

Now let's try to add the necessary resources to ourselves, for example:

behavioral flexibility;

wisdom;

confidence;

well-being;

social success.

Let's colorize these assets:

behavioral flexibility - green;

wisdom-turquoise;

confidence blue;

well-being yellow;

social success orange.

We inhale and as we inhale we fill our body with the green color of behavioral flexibility, and as we exhale we fill our bubble of personal space with behavioral flexibility. Repeat the cycle three times.

We inhale and as we inhale we fill our body with the turquoise color of wisdom, and as we exhale we fill our bubble of personal space with wisdom. Repeat the cycle three times.

We inhale and as we inhale we fill our body with the blue color of confidence, and as we exhale we fill our bubble of personal space with confidence. Repeat the cycle three times.

We breathe in and, as we inhale, fill our body with the yellow color of well-being, and as we exhale, we fill our bubble of personal space with well-being. Repeat the cycle three times.

We breathe in and, as we breathe in, fill our body with the orange color of social success, and as we breathe out, we fill our bubble of personal space with social success. Repeat the cycle three times.

How do you feel now?

What has changed in your personal space?

How do you feel about people who annoy you now?

I hope this article was useful to you!

Happy practice!