2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43
Nice work, but somehow - melancholy. The feeling that you are living a meaningless life.
Day after day. Month after month. Year after year.
Like groundhog day. When you get paid, it becomes a little easier until the money is spent. The habit of spending can arise precisely because you want to bring something new into life, to make it even richer and more varied. Go to the sea, to Europe, add colors and new sensations.
In pursuit of sensations, people take loans. Most do not pay attention to interest rates, as if their lives are so empty that something needs to be filled up faster. New washing machine, new clothes, new experiences.
And then life becomes harder and more meaningless, because the sensations have already been lived, things have long become old and ceased to please - of course, you can increase the credit limit. But this also has a limit.
Squirrel in the wheel: you need to earn more and more to pay off the loan or at least the interest on it, but you still need to please yourself somehow.
Why is this happening, why are we so dependent on stimulating ourselves with external influences.
Perhaps we just want to drown out a voice in ourselves that says: “What I am doing is not quite what I want to do or not at all what I want to do”, “I do not live the way I want, but the way I can ". And there is a very long distance between "I want" and "I can".
This distance is formed when we have not learned to hear ourselves, to show our creativity.
Successful businessmen, scientists, creative people who have achieved a lot in life, as a rule, know how to listen to themselves, their life is creativity.
The second hallmark is bringing something important into the life of the world through your talents.
A person who cannot find himself simply does not benefit the world around him by his activities. This may not be so, but subconsciously he feels exactly this.
If you are looking for yourself, analyze if you are doing something for this world, it may not necessarily be a professional activity.
Next, you need to understand yourself and try to discover the type of activity that will bring you joy and satisfaction.
Then you can gradually try to transfer your professional activity to the area to which your heart lies.
Of course, this is not an easy task, because sometimes you need to radically change your life, overcome your fears that no one will need me or that they will not pay for it.
But, perhaps, in the work on the ability to trust oneself, another, not always obvious, human purpose is manifested.
Perhaps, in the development of the skill to navigate in life according to one's own inner compass, another, not always obvious, human purpose is hidden.
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