2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43
⭕️Closed circle ⠀
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Rushing from corner to corner in a vicious circle of resentment, without an exit, complete hopelessness. I could not understand and feel nothing but pain, anger and a thirst for revenge for the lack of feelings of others. ⠀
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Resentment after resentment against the men, who had been tightly packed inside their bodies for years, rose in me. ⠀
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I lay and breathed, and images floated up inside: ⠀
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1️⃣I wanted to be a good wife and housewife. For me it meant keeping the house clean, cooking delicious food, being a good lover, and most importantly, faithful. I want the usual and standard set … But life went on and I began to feel dead, began to study the issue and took up psychology. There are other people here. I finally learned to feel. How painful it was to part with the image of a good wife, but it is necessary. ⠀
After all, it seemed to me that the problem was in me, and not in the other person and his insensitivity. ⠀
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2️⃣I just wanted to live and love. And I met the same one, he also felt and experienced … But at the same time I knew how it should be, I wanted an ideal relationship and fulfilled all his requests, in the end it drove me into a corner … A corner where there are two walls next to him, but not him, I no longer felt close to him. Nearby, I did everything wrong and he was always not happy. It was very difficult for me to accept that a person who knows how to feel cannot fully accept me, and I loved him very much. I learned to take responsibility for my choices and come into conflict. ⠀
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But how many times have I been offended for the cruelty and death that my life system underwent. ⠀
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The feeling was that love was being burned out of me with a hot iron. Burned out. It wasn't love. I had to let her go. I had to learn to love without pain and without bandages. Now I love 😍⠀
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And only now I understand that I got a lot in return ⠀
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1. Knowledge about yourself ⠀
2. Happiness ⠀
3. The ability to set your own boundaries ⠀
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So far, I have not yet learned how to let go and forgive. The pain, the feeling of not being enough is still there inside. ⠀
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❓❓ Why can't I forgive and thank after receiving so much? ⠀
What am I not forgiving?
Why can't I forgive !?
❌I categorically do not forgive myself and my mistakes in people.
And I am sure that in my case you need to concentrate on finding your own happiness.
Then there will be no need to forgive others.
❗️ Resentment is grinding your real true non-fake path. She is like a guiding star who really does not tolerate distortion. And I’m more, I’ll say if you want to become a deeply sincere person, there is nothing easier than to be offended and admit it. This is where the transformation process begins. ⠀
Resentment can become a friend that leads to integrity.
Do not focus on the offender, concentrate on the offense and the question: what am I offended? How to act differently so that I would not be hurt or offended.
💜I love my grievances so much that I no longer try to quickly get rid of them.
They bring me to their place.
If you are ready to integrate your grievances, I traditionally invite you to an individual program consisting of 6 consultations.
Believe me, resentment can only be the beginning of climbing your own Olympus.
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