2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43
What is rumination? These are repetitive thoughts that move in a vicious circle and very often have no answers.
Imagine a gum that we constantly chew by inertia, even when it has long lost its taste. Every person ruminates from time to time.
Think about the situations when you thought about the same thing over and over again. There is no great danger in this, since in most cases, a person switches and leaves the closed loop. But there are people who, after traumatic events, cannot escape from such thoughts and rumination becomes part of their thinking.
There are several types of rumination:
1. Accentuated rumination that is associated with a specific personality. For example, with a superior supervisor who attacks a subordinate, and he, in turn, cannot answer, and is forced to endure. But then, in his own thoughts, he repeatedly replays that situation, and the options for his "sharp" answers to the offender.
2. Interrogative rumination. Very often they arise as a result of a traumatic situation. For example, after a divorce, a wife who valued this marriage again and again asks herself questions: “What if”? but, what if we talked more, then everything could be different? The danger of such thoughts is that there is no answer to them. A person is forced to walk again and again in a vicious circle, to ask himself questions again and again without receiving answers and satisfaction from them.
How does question ruminations work?
The brain, after a certain number of repetitions, perceives such reasoning as a situation of hopelessness - this intensifies a bad mood and can lead to depression.
3. Emotionally focused rumination. Why am I depressed? Why can't I get rid of her? What is it for me?
4. Ruminations that are associated with certain stress. For example, a person broke his arm and constantly thinks, if I had not gone there, then nothing would have happened, or if Ivan had not told me about that ski resort, then the hand would have been healthy, but it was necessary to answer so and so - then.
There is an opinion that rumination is useful, it helps to focus or get rid of feelings of resentment, anger, frustration. But this is not true. A person with a broken arm can play other options for hours, but apart from emotional exhaustion, this will not give him anything. Just like a "wife", after a divorce, she can answer the question: "What if?" For weeks, but in the end she will not receive an answer.
One of the objectives of Cognitive Behavioral Therapy is to focus the person's attention on the above recurring thoughts, and to distance themselves from them. Sometimes the understanding that I'm just ruminating at the moment allows a person to get out of the vicious circle and not make repetitive thoughts a part of themselves.
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