2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43
Friends, I want to put the following question on our comprehension: how much we all and each of us individually are able to accept an important, but extremely undesirable part of our life - the one that we would like to, but in no way can we change?! … Accept without indignation, senseless struggle and a reproach - philosophically, as a fact admitted by the conduct ?!
Difficult topic, isn't it ?
This is a difficult, very difficult reality. Do we know how to accept ?
The first thing we do: we actively begin to fight - for ourselves and for our interests! And this is a very true quality! Remember the tale of Leonid Panteleev "Two frogs"? If it were not for the perseverance of one of the girlfriends, sour cream would have remained sour cream, without turning into strong and hard butter, and the unfortunate woman would have drowned.
But what if the struggle does not improve the circumstances and the situation must be let go ?! How difficult it is! Let's ponder why ?!
Is it because in this case (just like in childhood) we continue to egocentrically think that we are the center of a common history, and our truth is the only true truth that exists in the world?
Immature position, right? After all, since the past childhood, we have learned many times: there are thousands of different truths, and therefore it happens in every way …
I am reminded of the wonderful cartoon by the Bulgarian director Vladimir Shomov. I'll give you …
And if the objective world does not always correspond to our subjective reality, is it worth it to desperately "break through the walls" in these cases? Maybe there, behind these walls, there is something, from which fate protects for a while? And the best way in this case is let go?!
But what kind of plasticity it requires! What respect for the universe! What a serious, inner maturity! After all, how do you have to grow up …
Do not stomp your foot and do not demand like a child, do not plant and do not exact, as a parent, and not to save the "wrong" situation, as unrecognized and eternal rescuer.
Let's remember the famous Karpman triangle or "Triangle of Misfortune"!
The only way out of this triangle, as we remember, is in internal maturation, growth! That is, in promoting the spiritual position of the "inner philosopher" who knows how to accept not only positive, but also undesirable, alien given that cannot be influenced! Accept and deal with different life material! And this is a serious skill; deep, spiritual property!
I recall the brilliant lines of the German thinker Friedrich Christoph Etinger …
Lord give me tranquilityaccept what I cannot change! Give me couragechange what i can change! And give me wisdomto distinguish one from the other!
And the famous Gestalt prayer, the author of which is the German psychiatrist Frederic Perls …
I do my job, and you do your job.
I do not live in this world to live up to your expectations.
And you don't live in this world to live up to my expectations.
You are you!
And I am me!
And if we happened to meet each other - that's great!
If not, then nothing can be done!
It turns out that internal maturation is the only recipe for psychological health
Giving support in the most varied circumstances of our life
Including in situations of undesirable, but admitted by life, a given that cannot be influenced
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