Love Your Husband Again

2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43

Notes on the margins of consultations) The article is focused on women, while it will be equally useful for men)

There in life it happens that feelings grow cold between a husband and wife, and in the heads of both more and more often there is a thought - "can you get a divorce?" And now, in the heat of another quarrel, the thought of divorce sounded in the family space … And the two begin to materialize it in their actions and in interaction with each other, moving further and further away from each other, and if there is an opportunity, it has become fashionable to disperse.

Playing a role-playing game for adults - "divorce", you can really play out to a real divorce. The first reaction is an outburst of negative emotions (greedily accumulated over the years of life together: pain, resentment, fears, doubts, claims, discontent, etc.) thought, "well, let him leave … well, let the divorce, I can handle it."..

The development of events in each family will be different. at the same time, two pronounced tendencies are obvious: divorce and family preservation) I have already spoken about how to divorce humanly, and why men want to divorce. Today is about how to love your husband again.

Where to begin?

Initially, it is worth taking a break in sorting out the relationship, and switching your attention inward, thinking about yourself, and not for others, harmonizing your psycho-emotional state, because while you are in negative emotions, you will be able to make reasonable decisions in this situation and conduct constructive dialogues beyond my powers.

If there is an opportunity to be in solitude for several days, it is a healthy option that you can fill with useful moments for yourself. If it is not possible to be completely in solitude, then find for yourself at least an hour a day.

What is the best way to fill solitude?

Emotional cleaning is obligatory) Written practices-self-help method with high efficiency are also good in solitude: you can write a "letter of anger" addressed to your husband and at the same time write a "letter of gratitude" to him) Both practices should be done consciously. Set aside 10 minutes for each of them and divide them by time during the day, for example, during the day you write a letter of anger, in the evening, set aside 10 minutes for a letter of gratitude. Give all your attention to writing the letter. Write as it "comes to mind" at the time of writing, your letters should not be read by anyone. Thank you for the joyful moments of interaction, for all the skills, experience gained next to this person, for all difficult situations that carry the tasks of self-development. These practices are worth living, and not just formally performing, then the result will surprise you first of all)

Direct your attention to all your social roles-be aware of your needs in each of your roles and those formats of interaction with the world that will allow them to realize them-take time for yourself-pump the energy of love inside you, through the beautiful results of your actions and interactions with the world … Thus, you activate your internal resources of the personality to live in the situation that has developed in the family as reasonably as possible - to get results. which will mutually suit you and your husband both.

When you are in a resourceful state to comprehend the current situation in your family relationships, you will be able to straighten out the clumsy interaction formats. To straighten from the inside - through your harmonious state - after all, not only the forms of interaction are significant, but also their filling.

What is divorce in essence? This is when two people did not cope with their roles in the format of interaction (family) that both once decided to create. The format of relations that was once created has exhausted itself, perhaps it even "died" a long time ago and the spouses do not understand how to correct and improve it, or how to set a new format and transfer relations to a new level. so divorce seems like a solution to them.)

Most often, husband and wife are in tune with each other as much as possible in a number of personality parameters. Therefore, it is important for you to consciously comprehend your idea of the format of relationships that is filled with the happiness of all family members, in which significant needs are realized, in which everyone develops in love. It makes sense to start with yourself - review your effectiveness in the roles of woman, wife and mom.

Fall in love with your husband again - look at him as a stranger - carefully "examine" him from all sides) See what he is good at for you)

By pumping your love energies in your roles, you will begin to give your husband respect, acceptance, love, and you will be able to start a constructive dialogue about what your family will be like at the new stage of your life together, or you will painlessly part - end the relationship with love. It so happens that people should go through a divorce in order to re-create a relationship with their partner)

Of course, what I told you is just one of the many options for saving a family, while perhaps it will be useful for you)

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