Breastfeeding: "maximum" Tariff

2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43

It is generally accepted that the happiest, carefree and wonderful time is childhood, especially infancy. It is assumed that nowhere does a child find himself in such a state of security, love and total security as in these first months and years of life. In fact this is not true.

The baby is actually the most defenseless and weak-willed creature on the planet. It is his mother who decides for him whether he is hungry, tired and cannot fall asleep, or whether he just got scared. Very, very much depends on this ability to subtly capture the needs of the child, on this fusion in the first months. And it is during this period that the baby is most vulnerable. Because sometimes, instead of pressing the child to the heart, showing him the world around him, finding a fold that presses, sprinkle the diaper rash with saving powder, the mother decides that the child needs breast with milk again. It doesn't matter what he ate 15 minutes ago. Because "mother's milk - it helps from all diseases and fears." And whether it helps the child or the mother herself more on the forums is not specified.

Exclusive breastfeeding is recommended for up to 6 months. For up to two years, it is recommended to leave it under conditions of poor hygiene and limited access to clean water and quality food in order to avoid intestinal infections. In breastfeeding a child up to three or more years old, apart from the desire of the mother herself (and its origins are a separate issue), I do not see anything else. You can start cooking the tomatoes.

So, mother can only be considered almost a saint. Well, at most a person who did not know what he was doing. In fact, my mother is not a shrine, while all the bumps fly to my father for indifference, absence, detachment and other shortcomings "by default." Sometimes mothers become complicit in a crime. For example, when they “do not notice” the violence of the father (grandmother, teacher) against the child. It is a very controversial question whether it is good if this violence is only emotional and psychological. But sometimes (Lies. Not sometimes. Often. Alas) physical and sexual violence is "not noticed". And it is not customary to talk about this out loud either. Although this is a topic for another text.

Mom is, first of all, a woman who had her own problems, fears and losses in life. The psyche gets its own sooner or later. One way or another. Motherhood is a real magical kingdom of realizing fantasies. About revenge, competition, envy, intimacy, which she lacked so much. And in this whole story there may be no visible shores.

This is where the figure of the father is so important. It is he who should appear at a certain moment and say: "Woman, your son is already able to sleep separately and he does not need your breast every hour and a half." He returns the woman from the role of only a mother back to the role of a partner on whom to rely on, and a mistress who gives her night time to him. The father is a figure of the law. She must appear and say infinite pleasure in the merging of "stops." And say this not only to the child, but also to the mother. And here begins the cries of righteous anger at all who encroach on the sacred: the inextricable bond of mother and child.