2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43
We perceive many activities in our life as short-term projects. "Improve English". "Lose weight" by the summer ". Take a detox program. However, this has as much to do with short-term effort as the verbs "eat" and "work." In the sense that you can refresh yourself once. But, damn it, for some reason after 3-4 hours I want to eat again.
Before thinking about changes in life, it is worth checking yourself on the shore: “Will a one-time effort be enough? If not, am I ready / ready to permanently free up a cell in my weekly schedule for this activity, equivalent to, say, half a day off? " For example, there is a desire to "improve" English. But, you must admit, in the end there is no such state of "smart English". There is the state "I speak English fluently, using idioms" and "I watch films with subtitles, secretly exhausted from the inconvenience, but I do not miss the opportunity to brag about it on Facebook." How about permanently ditch half of the books you read in your native language and switch to English? And to devote every trip to the subway to the repetition of new words?
Psychotherapists Sherri Cormier and Harold Hackney, in Counseling Strategies and Interventions, talk about three characteristics of a goal: behavior, conditions, and frequency. The first is about formulating a goal in behavioral terms. The closer to a specific action, the better. Let's say not "I want to blog," but "I want to write blog posts." The second is the conditions. This is not so much about the time that is "allocated for the lesson", but about the time and space that is freed up for new activity. And the third, as already mentioned, is the frequency. As a result, there is a goal with its own rhythm - "publish new posts on Wednesdays and Saturdays and set aside three hours for their preparation, postponing meetings with clients in the evening."
Such restrictions are about honesty. About the opportunity to sensibly assess your resources and wait for the dream occupation - one to which you can happily devote even a free evening, even though all the weekend, or even your whole life.
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