FROM CINDERELLA TO QUEEN

2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43

"FROM CINDERELLA TO QUEEN"

Every woman has a little princess inside. Even if she is Cinderella. She never stops dreaming. She hopes and waits. That someday she will be queen. Even in an old dress and with bags at the ready.

The princess inside her at first expects and naively believes that it is worth growing up a little and this will definitely happen. A fairy will knock on the window and offer a carriage. Then she will make such an indelible impression that the prince himself will find her and everything will be fine.

But the fairy is late or does not come at all. She knows that if she appears in a girl's life, the girl will disappear. For she, like her pumpkin and coachman, is an illusion. And the time that she can give her is only up to 12. What will the silly girl do then? Wait forever again for someone to come? After all, she is so naive that she will let the robber in under the guise of a savior.

Few people in the post-Soviet space were lucky not to fall into the trap of naive childish spontaneity. Few of the women managed to avoid disappointment and self-pretensions. After all, her inner girl believed, and she was deceived. This is a traumatized child.

Deception is inherent in the parent-child relationship when it is rebuked rather than praised. When a child's curiosity was blamed. When the wrong action was associated with a person and, much worse, they did not show how well this action had to be done otherwise.

She simply has no successful experience. There is emptiness … Her parents did not have this experience either, they did not know how to teach her this. The girl only remembered that she had failed. Made a mistake.

At the same time, no one told her that there was NO right answer at all. But since then, she is afraid to ask and show her ignorance: she simply cannot bear another portion of self-flagellation. She is waiting for the fairy. Outside salvation.

Psychologically, any triangle of suffering begins with the role of the rescuer, who then becomes the persecutor and eventually the victim. This is a funnel in which family and everyday scenarios are played out in a circle. There is no love and happiness there, but there are more than enough claims and difficulties.

From the point of view of spirituality - the position of the girl, this is Pride of pure water. I am the best, as I am the worst - reality turned inside out. Broadcast one: I am the most …… I am not with everyone. I am separated from the world. I am separated from God. When you are separated, the world cannot come to you and recognize you.

From the point of view of the quantum world order, it is a low vibrational flow that spins this funnel. You can emerge from it only by rising and broadcasting the frequencies of joy, which is quite difficult to do in real life: another label will be sewn: a dreamy fool. The environment is unlikely to contribute to the other. At high vibrations, generic programs of despondency and sadness are rewritten, therefore, close people, as a rule, are a brake on this path.

In addition, our clever mind requires proof: show it and prove everything to it. He needs facts.

It also happens that the girl's actions were just the most faithful, but they were treated inattentively and devalued, extinguishing the spark of a real flame. The flow of creative inspiration was blocked, where everything pulsates with high vibrations.

What, then, should a girl, a young woman, a mature woman, who has exhausted all reserves of inner strength, do? The answer lies on the surface. Go out into the light by yourself. This requires her Fear to become her best friend. You need to look at him as the most faithful helper, for he knows that the Fairy lives inside the woman herself. She just stubbornly doesn't want to see her

She resists her with all her might and therefore more and more often says: “I'm tired. I can not take it anymore. I have no strength. Imagine with what force a pearl keeps its shell from opening and collapses? How does a pupa resist the process of giving birth to a butterfly and eventually dies?

There is also another force of disclosure - bad weather: a squally wind, storm, elements, a series of failures and losses. If she's lucky. If the element bypasses her or she manages to hide, and this is exactly what the instinctive part of our brain does, then she will grow old as a Cinderella, turning into a grumpy displeased old woman. Isn't it Baba Yaga?

Ask yourself one question: Why am I looking back in time? What am I looking for there: parental confessions or lost value? I will surprise you: your value is always with you. Give yourself recognition: Become the loving parent of yourself.

Irina Mitrakhovich. Coach. psychologist. Transformational trainer.