Drama Queen

2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43

What do you think, my dear reader, why, when you achieve your goals, that is, you embody a dream, then sometimes you do not even have time to enjoy success. You've gone through a lot to come here. And how much you did and shoveled your problems - Mom, do not worry! AND? In response, silence and emptiness? From within you … And that's half the trouble. The main thing is that, instead of joy, there is a reproach that it is possible and better, that, they say, where it is still necessary to dig, not to dig. And here she is, Mistress Depression and Disappointment with her to boot. Looks out there, from behind.

And what is the point? The fact that this is YOUR MOTHER'S REACTION to your achievements. That's all. And the whole answer. Just remember how your parents (maybe my dad, I don’t know, but more often my mother) reacted to your A's, cleaning, a new drawing. Don't you remember? Therefore, you do not remember, my dear Family Heroine, who did a lot in order to attract attention to herself and receive ELEMENTARY basic needs for care, love, admiration and support.

And, by the way, perhaps you have already stopped trying and taken a different position. Or, perhaps, you still continue to try. But there was no approval, and no. Now from myself.

I almost always encounter this phenomenon with my clients, whom I lead to LIFE THEIR DREAMS! And it is always sad when they are not able to appreciate their achievements. But, I understand them like no one else. After all, I myself, embodying my dreams one after another, could not free myself from this dissatisfaction for a long time. From this reaction of my Internal Sport Coach, who is not enough of my races, he already has a stopwatch, drives me to a new marathon. As in childhood, in a sports camp, at 6 am we ran through a pine forest, overcoming pain.

And the question is not just gratefully, relax and enjoy life. It is important to leave that valuable part - the ability to set goals and persist in achieving them. Make dreams come true, seeing what can be improved in my life today. It is very amazing to be able to co-create your Destiny. To co-create together with the Universe.

The question is, at the same time, to still be able to enjoy with gratitude and be sincerely proud of what I create. And yet enjoy, going to Dreams.

Do you know this state of inner Marathon without pleasure? Do you know that to be sincerely happy and proud of yourself every day is not that difficult, but downright unnatural for you?

Then catch the self-help life hack! Recently, I have become a METRO for creating self-help practices for my clients. I hope their delight from these practices awaits you too.

First, remember all the same how you reacted to your achievements in childhood and find the similarities. Or how parents reacted to their own accomplishments. Did your family know how to rejoice, celebrate and enjoy success? Realize this, write it down in your diary.

Secondly, write 5 phrases of gratitude for what you have in your diary every day. This allows you not to plunge into Depression and send it a little further away. And yet CONSCIOUSLY to find joy in the present day.

And yet, my dear, allow yourself to become more careful and tender to yourself and begin to be proud and praise yourself. No matter how difficult it was at first. And this will help the task number three. Write in your diary every day 5 of your yesterday's deeds / actions that you are proud of. Let it be at least the preparation of a delicious dish, or at least just the preparation of any dish, after a sleepless night of some …

And keep the good habit of seeing what needs to be improved in your life and making those improvements. Fourth exercise. We divide a sheet of paper in half and write on the left everything that we like in our life, and on the right - everything that we want to have in our life. And accordingly, we outline a plan - the introduction of changes and a plan to celebrate and enjoy the changes."And what is it?" - you will surely ask me, Master of Non-Rest and Non-Amusement. This is just Recreation and Entertainment with ease and joy. And examining your achievements with a magnifying glass. When you see them, praise and reward yourself, the inner COACH will become more loyal and gentle.

And at the end of the article, I'll tell you a secret. We, the majority of post-Soviet girls, are sorely lacking in softness towards ourselves. It is men who need inspiration and motivation, it is more important for us to learn to love, care and admire our Inner Genius, who so diligently creates his life. In co-creation with the Universe, of course.