2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43
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More precisely, postponing things for later can happen to everyone, for doing something unnecessary and useless. The office worker has more freedom of choice - what to direct their attention to, what to do, when to take a break, etc., so this category often suffers from a mental illness called procrastination.
And here you are flipping through Facebook, VKontakte, the clock is ticking, then you make a cup of coffee, answer the phone call, then talk about children, school and it's already evening, you can go home. And on the table is a heap of unfinished business, projects, calls and an itchy feeling of guilt. And you say to yourself - Tomorrow, I'll get myself together and get down to business, but tomorrow has come, and there is no change.
You can fly out of work, earn depression, get yourself from constant dissatisfaction with yourself and / or get a psychosomatic illness. For example, causeless back or shoulder pain.
Imagine that you came to a psychologist with such a problem (and such appeals happen), what hypotheses of the reasons for procrastination will he test?
1. Work is not fun
Watch the movie Fear and Awe. The young girl decided to work for a Japanese corporation. And so that she abandoned this venture, she was assigned to conduct elementary accounting operations, despite the fact that she was a qualified marketer. And the miracles of procrastination began. She cannot add two plus two on the calculator, she is in the clouds, is engaged in a marketing report that was not assigned to her. She works at night so that the numbers in the financial statements coincide, experiences nervous stress and goes to wash the toilets, proving to herself and others that she is not capable of more.
2. Burnout
After a tense meeting, the employee got up, packed his bag and went home. Two days did not come - came on the third. And he continued to work further. The bosses did not even ask questions. Human stress, what can you do about it? It happens.
Employee stress builds up year after year. And then a picture of energy and emotional exhaustion sets in, where there is no more strength for the task, and the most interesting task at work is called lunch.
3. Sabotage
You are a professional in love with what you do. You are assigned to lead a project with an unsympathetic, conflicting and absurd person. You agree, but you turn on the procrastinating mechanisms and the case is not.
A similar mechanism works if there is an unworked relationship with a boss and a subordinate.
Also, I have come across a situation where you are invited to do something, but the connection with the reward is unclear, or you need to do a lot, but pay little.
4. Fear of failure
You evaluate the work to be done as difficult, new. The risk of doing this job, losing face, being incompetent is very high. Just the thought that it’s time to get started brings on an attack of fear and despair.
5. Desire to be punished
A. You are not used to taking responsibility for your life. Other people made the decisions for you. In a situation where the work does not lie on the soul there is no strength, get up and leave. You wait for the environment to kick you out and do everything for this.
B. Your insidious plan in relation to yourself - will not take place in order to fulfill your parental instructions "you will not succeed", "you will be a janitor, dishwasher", etc. etc.
Lifebuoy
- Find out the reasons.
- Plan everything you can: day, month, year, seven years, define a life mission.
- Tell the system administrator to close fb, vk, livejournal and other sites where you procrastinate for you.
- Set yourself a doable task. Depending on the degree of your ailment, commit to working on the unpleasant task for at least ten minutes a day, without missing a beat. So piece by piece, the elephant will be eaten.
- Try to load yourself as much as you can. Talk about real deadlines, organize your work taking into account real possibilities.
- Get support. Ask an expert, friend, professional for advice.
- Watch this inspiring video.
- See a psychologist if you can't do it on your own.
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