2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43
How do you want … to become?
Surely my colleagues have come across several times when a client comes and tells how it is for a long time and in detail, and that is bad, and that. And mom … and husband (wife) … and children again.
What about work? And the bosses? Not to mention traffic jams and wages.
And he is unhappy with everything. And upset. And broken. And maladjusted!
And he even concludes that "I probably have psychosomatics."
- What would you like? the psychologist asks.
- So I told everything! - the client is surprised and even a little angry. And to himself he thinks: "What an incomprehensible psychologist! Or is he dragging out time?"
You can list your troubles, misfortunes and sorrows for a long time. Formulate "How I want it to be!" it can be very difficult, and for some it is even impossible.
We always know how much we dislike it, but we can hardly say how it should become.
It is important to note that this question is not about dreams and projects. Desires such as a million dollars and a prince for lovers are easy to state.
The psychologist asks about something else. What can you change and how should it become in the same conditions: with the same mother, husband, salary and non-different children.
Agree that dreaming of millions is easier than defining "How do you want it to be?"
The psychologist is not just asking this question. He offers his services, his knowledge, skills, his support so that the answers are found.
If you are not yet ripe to work with a psychologist, then try it yourself, it will suddenly work out.
I suggest the following actions
(Answer these questions, and be sure to write for clarity.)
1. What is good in your life, besides all the bad?
2. What would you like to change?
3. What can you change?
4. How can you change this?
5. What would you like to change, but you know it's impossible?
6. Why is it impossible to change it?
7. If this cannot be changed, then why are you wasting so many of your emotions and resources on it?
And the last question.
How do you want it to be?
Happened?
Have your condition, health, mood changed for the better? Congratulations! You did it!
No? Are you even more confused? The situation is serious!
You cannot do without the help of a specialist.
If my article was useful to you, I will be glad to receive your comments and feedback.
Recommended:
You See Only What You Want To See - In General, You Are The Problematic One
There is a very popular idea that a person sees only what he wants to see. Moreover, it is based on a completely reliable fact about the selectivity of our attention, noticed at the end of the 19th century by the American psychologist and philosopher William James (he called it, if my memory serves me, "
Do You Want To Be Happy? Then You Have To Give Up Everything That Makes You Unhappy
From time immemorial, people have been looking for an answer to the question: "How to be happy?" At all times there were magicians and sorcerers, priests and doctors, witches and fortune-tellers, then scientists and inventors who fought to resolve this issue.
About The Illusion Of Choice Or "What Do You Want To Become When You Grow Up?"
First, I want to tell you about one of my clients (with his consent). The guy recently graduated from medical university and now works as a dentist. The parents of this guy, however, grandmothers, grandfathers and a couple of generations, are also doctors of different profiles.
I Want To, But I Can't What To Do When You Don't Have The Strength To Do What You Want To Do?
Consider a situation when you want to do something, you really want to, but you do not have the strength. There is no physical strength, you lie down and lie flat. And I really want to do something extremely for you, but you can't. Well, you can't, that's all.
Do You Want To Become A Weak Woman? This Is A Reason To Get Stronger
Everything in the family rests on me. I decide everything. Next to me are helpless chicks who look into my mouth and will die without me if they do not throw another worm into their beak. And therefore: -I work as if not in myself;
