Seven Characteristics. Psychological Test

2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43

Every person has positive and negative character traits. If we know about our qualities and accept them in ourselves, then we will be loyal to other people who have similar traits. For example, if a person admits that at times he is quick-tempered, then he will forgive the same quick-temper to another. A person is prevented from knowing himself by the fact that, having some "negative" qualities, personality traits that he does not like in himself, he is not ready to fully accept them. Then, in his mind, these qualities are projected onto other people and he turns his anger and rejection onto them. Such a deceptive feeling allows you to maintain self-esteem, and therefore is not rejected.

For example, a person who “does not allow” himself such a quality as slovenliness will conflict with everyone who exhibits this quality. Or a person who dislikes someone and wishes him harm, thanks to the projection mechanism, gets the confidence that it was the other who plotted some nasty thing against him. Thus, this person receives an excuse for his negative feelings and even actions. Another example. A person who scandals where he works understands that he is doing a bad thing, it worries him, upsets his peace of mind. And then he projects his inclinations onto other people, begins to believe that everyone is scandalizing, which makes him feel better. The false opinion calms him down.

Knowledge of such human weakness allows us to conclude: the fact that other people, in my opinion, are "worse than me" or "the same as me" does not give the right to self-respect. Moreover, it lulls vigilance, interferes with the objective self-knowledge of a person. In order to have less conflict and more self-respect in your life, you should first of all accept yourself and other people as they are. That is, allow yourself and others to be yourself, remove any claims to others and remember: we can only change ourselves.

An exercise:

Within 10 minutes you will need to write in a column 7 of your characteristics, answering the question "What am I?" At the same time, remember that there are no right or wrong, important or unimportant answers to this question. After you make a list of 7 of your characteristics, write opposite each of them the opposite in meaning, but without the prefix "not" (for example: "good - evil", not "good - not kind")

Now look carefully at the two lists you have obtained: which literary hero, fairy tale or other character you know - a politician, a natural phenomenon, etc. - may have 7 characteristics from the first list, and which one - 7 characteristics

from the second. If you find it difficult to pick up heroes with all these characteristics, you can choose them in accordance with six or five main characteristics. The name of the selected hero should be signed under the corresponding group of characteristics.

Now note which characteristics of the two columns you accept in yourself and in other people, which you are neutral about, and which you consider unacceptable to yourself and others.

Based on the book by I. V. Stishenok

So, with the help of 7 characteristics about yourself, you can increase your own flexibility and loyalty to yourself and others.