2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43
Emotional addiction: Have you separated from your mother?
Have you separated from your mother?
Even if you live separately and support yourself financially, you can be emotionally dependent on your mother. You can check it in my author's questionnaire.
The more "Yes" you will have in your advice to my questions and statements, the more your dependence on your mother and the more you are connected with your mother in an UN-healthy relationship
So: a list of questions and statements
* Constant arguments with the mother, claims, criticism.
* In relationships, control, power and manipulation by the mother.
* You often feel guilty towards your mother and that you should …
* You feel that you have not met the expectations of your mother, you do not correspond to something invented by your mother.
* You have not reached an adult friendship with your mother, do not provide help, do not have various connections with her, do not like to visit her, write or call, perhaps you do not communicate at all. You do not love her.
* Mom can "come to visit" without warning, and you have to pretend joy, and you yourself are angry that it takes your time.
* Your principle of communication with mom - "the less, the better"
Or vice versa.
* You call your mom several times every day.
* You rush to your mom on the first call, and she often abuses your responsiveness
* You set up your own home the way your mom likes. She makes design decisions, what furniture to buy and what curtains.
* Your tendency to implement into life and career not your ideas about something, but the ideal ideas of your mother, * Many decisions for you are made by the mother (which institution to enter, the choice of a husband from candidates, etc.)
* When communicating with your mother, you still feel like a small child, she constantly instructs you on how to do the right thing and insists that you did just that.
* Your painful struggle for your own opinion and your own maturity has not yet brought success
* It is difficult for you to take on those adult responsibilities that your mother performed while you lived in your parent's house: washing, renting, cleaning, buying groceries, etc. and this is how the presence of mom in your house is justified - she helps you with these duties, and constantly
* You cannot create your own support system outside the family, there are no girlfriends or friends. Mom is your greatest friend and support. You and Mom spend the evenings. You and your mom are spending the weekend. You and your mom celebrate your birthday and all the other holidays. You and your mother are on vacation and go on tourist trips. YOU WITH MOTHER …
* You are angry with mom and her interference, but you cannot tell about it.
* In the case of a marriage partner, a difficult relationship with a partner. Problems arise from the fact that power over you is shared between your partner and your mother.
* It is difficult for both - you and your mother - to take responsibility for your own life and not be responsible for someone else's, not to interfere with each other's life.
Separation from the mother means parting only with her responsibilities towards you as a child, and not with her as a person.
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