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Pit Of Impotence
Pit Of Impotence
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Do you know the feeling of complete powerlessness? When not yet awake, but already tired. When fatigue is generally the only sensation that constantly accompanies. Feeling of depression, a kind of helplessness, lethargy and a little boredom. It seems there are things, and things that you want to do, but cannot. There is no energy, it seems like a great idea came, it would be cool to write it down and do something, and pfff and I don't want anything anymore. Such total powerlessness, energy is enough only for what is needed, for obligations.

Sound familiar? I think everyone has such a feeling at least once, and if not, then you are lucky.

The trap is a pit of powerlessness

Many people call this condition chronic fatigue, overwork. But recent research has shown that chronic fatigue is slightly different and has a medical basis. This name is so obvious, but it is difficult to determine that this is chronic fatigue, besides, it looks like a lot. So let's leave her alone.

Also, all the symptoms that I listed at the beginning are similar to burnout with his overwork. But I am dealing with burnout problems and studying the energy curve, and studying each stage, and knowing what to do, I realized that this is also not about fatigue.

The energy curve looks like this, first there is a stage of fatigue, then relaxation, recovery, activation, action, completion, which turns into fatigue.

And for each stage there are beacons that show that we are at one stage or another. And then there are clear guidelines on what to do, how to move on to the next one. Everything is clear, it may not be so simple, but you know what to do for sure.

But, for a month, I was so smart, I was in complete despondency and powerlessness. I know all the stages, at first glance it feels like I'm stuck in fatigue. And so I did everything to allow myself to get tired and go into relaxation. I tormented myself for a month trying to relax and recover, but all I knew was not working. I was lethargic, did not strain, and so, why such fatigue?

I worked step by step every action, every sensation. As a watchmaker, I disassembled the mechanism in detail in order to understand what was broken.

And I didn’t find anything, I accepted and re-adopted myself long ago, I have a dream profession, I do what I love, if there is a purpose, then I found it. I am generally satisfied with my life, where does this despondency and powerlessness come from? What the hell is going on? And I got angry. And running in front, this is what saved me.

All this state, which looks like fatigue, overwork, this is not what it seems.

All-fatigue

This is pseudo-fatigue, it has the same symptoms as fatigue, and even severe overwork, but it does not come from actions, not from overload, but from frustration.

Frustration (Latin frustratio - "deception", "failure", "vain expectation", "disorder of intentions") is a mental state that arises in a situation of real or perceived impossibility of meeting certain needs, or, more simply, in a situation of inconsistency of desires available opportunities.

It turns out, what kind of situation, you come home in a great mood, to work or somewhere else, and there a situation occurs in the course of which you are frustrating. You have a wide variety of feelings and sensations that are similar to fatigue, but all methods of dealing with fatigue do not work in this case. And you find yourself in an even aggravated state - this is a pit of powerlessness.

A pit of powerlessness is a state of loss of energy, a feeling of powerlessness, pseudo-fatigue, which is caused by strong frustration

What to do?

When we were deceived, offended, when our plans were not justified, then the natural reaction of the body will be to defend itself. If for some reason we do not allow aggression to be, then we frustrate ourselves even more, and the pit becomes even deeper.

To get out of the hole, you need to do 4 steps:

First, understand that this is a pit

Second, find the source of the frustration

Third, let aggression be inside you

Fourth, take action to protect and rebuild our borders

Attention, letting aggression be inside you does not mean go and do something illegal with the offender. It is your personal right to express aggression, but it can be done in a socially acceptable way

The main thing is to let her be there, because aggression is what gives energy, and the difficulty of the pit is that there is no energy in it, therefore, to get out you need aggression. You cannot leave the pit without aggression.

First, you need to let the aggression be, ask yourself how I can express it, how I can protect myself, find the most acceptable of the possible options and make it. Again, it is very important to take steps to protect yourself. It is the action that will take you out of the hole!

For those who love to thank and forgive everyone! This is beautiful and noble, but it will keep you in the hole indefinitely. Aggression doesn't mean anything bad, it's just energy. You control the way in which you express aggression. First, aggression, then actions to protect yourself, and then you can forgive and thank - this is a healthy scheme that will preserve your psyche.

The pit of powerlessness always means violating your boundaries, in order to be whole and continue to live and not grieve, the boundaries must be restored. It is impossible to do this without aggression.

It was in the pit of powerlessness that I spent a month, at the beginning of the month one customer for whom I was doing marketing work did not pay me. And I was furious, but someone told me that it was all not worth it, and my aggression was suppressed and with it all the energy. At first I did not understand that it was a pit, I thought it was fatigue and was resting. But then I realized that everything was somehow not right. When I was already angry with myself because I was resting, I was resting, but there was no energy. Then it immediately became easier for me and I was able to get to the bottom of the real reason that they threw me for money and all my feelings about this swelled up. And the second time I let the aggression take off to the fullest, I got really angry. Finding a way for myself to express my indignation and at the same time not destroy the floor of the city, it became much easier for me. And by the way, I made sure that the money was returned to me. But most of all I am pleased that my energy returned to me, and now I can write this article.

Let's talk about the main thing again

There is fatigue, it comes after actions, there is pseudo-fatigue - it comes from frustrations. If you have fatigue, then allow it to be and walk along the energy curve, it will lead you to action. If you are pseudo-tired, you know you are in a pit of powerlessness, and you need to get really angry and protect yourself. I repeat once again, defending yourself does not mean ripping off the offender's head, you can do this in your fantasies, for reality, choose more socially acceptable methods.

Be attentive to yourself and your energy!

psychologist, Miroslava Miroshnik

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