2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43
This article will be useful to all people who are going to see a psychologist. In it, I described what I would say to every client who comes to me.
As a practicing psychologist, I often meet with the fact that people do not know who psychologists are. Rather, the point is not in their lack of knowledge, but in the “distorted picture” of the psychologist's activities. Some opinions and beliefs about psychologists are more like myths than what specialists in this field really do. This situation can be aggravated by a lack of understanding of what the professional activity of psychologists is and how they can help you.
Here I will describe what I would like to say to every client who turns to me for help.
So, let's begin:
1. I am engaged in psychological counseling. This means that I work with a healthy person, do not make diagnoses, do not prescribe medications. Counseling counseling is a relatively short-term process compared to psychotherapy. When you ask how many meetings we need, I will honestly answer that I don’t know, since this is very individual and depends on many factors. On average, counseling involves 10-15 meetings.
If in the process of work, I understand that you need the help of other specialists, then I will definitely recommend contacting them.
2. The purpose of our work will be to help you understand what is happening in your life, what is the problem, the difficulty. And as a result - comprehension of what is happening and the search for new solutions to the problem in order to make your life more comfortable. In the process of work, you will see what was previously “hidden”, learn to understand yourself and your feelings, see alternative options for behavior, ideas, values, try to implement them and gain new experience.
3. I will definitely ask you what exactly you want to get from counseling and what kind of help you expect from me. We will reach agreement, formulate the goal of the work - this is called a request - and we will constantly observe whether we are moving towards it. This will be our landmark. I will also ask: how will you know that you are on the right track?
4. Advice and guidance will be absent because there are no universal recipes for happiness. I can only help you create your own “recipe”. I will not evaluate your actions and actions - not only because my code of ethics says so, but also because I really do not know what is good for you and what is bad.
5. I also have problems in my life. Yes, I am a living person and, just like you, I have different feelings. Pain and suffering are no strangers to me. You and I are equal. I can understand you, be with you when, in the course of the consultation, you encounter something unusual and difficult.
6. We will share responsibility. What does it mean? I am responsible for my knowledge, skills, training and the methods that I use. You are responsible for whether you work, whether you change something in your life or not. I believe you know better what you need and are able to make decisions on your own.
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