Glasses

2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43

Emotional perception of a person, event, situation is formed by a combination of visual, auditory, kinesthetic (taste, smell, heat, cold, etc.) ideas about this person, situation, event

He immediately "turned on" me! Just like that, on the move! With a joke, with a joint dinner … No! This time I didn’t fall head over heels in love, I just casually remarked to my friend: “The guys are so cool!” In my heart, meaning, of course, him. And the next day he … did not say hello … He was sitting with some company, ignored the look, you know how it happens? … did not look back, did not wave his hand … And the day … did not work out. Again and again I caught myself on the fact that this southern city, and the heat, and the adorable sea on which I have not been for ages, infuriates me! And then it started: the "caliph" smiled - his pants were full of happiness; he is not there - the heart is not in place, the gaze is looking for a familiar figure; approached … I was blown away by the wind. When my friend, with whom I passed both the Crimea and the Rum, began to communicate with him … For the first time in my life, I HATE her brightly and with all my heart! With the charge of a nuclear power plant or a volcano!

And I'm not 17, but 37! I was taught to track my emotions, observe them, breathe …

… I could not answer to myself the question: “Why? What's hooked? Or is it hunger for love, passion, emotions or… adrenaline?”… The sea calmed me down, and I slowly realized that I myself did not know whether this person attracted me, or… scared me? And the fear is so concrete, closer to horror, to the point of nausea, and nightmares, in which huge abscesses, which my grandmother called "teal", exploded on my body like volcanoes like black disgusting pus.

This is the guy who hooked it! Then there was a chain of events full of emotions, but the essence is different. I kept trying to get to the bottom: "Why?" The answer came when she pulled back and exhaled slightly. He was wearing glasses! Regular, sunglasses, obviously expensive, like all his things … And these glasses were familiar to me! And his figure too!

An old story covered with dust … On my part there was love, on his … there was no love, but I really wanted to play on the strings of other people's souls. Not only on mine. I really wanted to! And it was mega nice to feel like a “caliph”! Him, of course!

And then an abscess in the shower really exploded. Black pus, tears, nausea in the literal sense of the word. I didn't even think that it lived in me! For a long time I have not remembered his name and the events of that long past time, when, as I realize now, I made the "only right" decision - NOT TO LOVE! Never! Never!

Now I know that I have already made this decision more than once! And over time, she again stepped on the same rake!

There is no happy ending in this story! I behaved like a fool, and lost, probably, not a bad person, who did not understand at all why his new acquaintance was behaving so strangely … I hope that at least an abscess has burst in my soul, and my loyal "security services" will clean up and cure this wavka forever.

I'll add a comment from myself:

Another story, a different client, has become a catalyst for the search and finding an answer to the question "Why is it so". The story was told by me to the author at the consultation as an illustration of how the psyche creates love.

In short, that story of long-term unhappy love began with a frame with a pattern around the image of a loved one, and ended with wiping this very pattern from this very frame during the session.

Emotional perception of a person, event, situation is formed by a combination of visual, auditory, kinesthetic (taste, smell, heat, cold, etc.) ideas about this person, situation, event.

By being aware of and changing these images, we can influence emotional perception, go out to accompanying beliefs, situations that initiated these experiences, and much more.

One way to test the effect of the therapy is to pay attention to the image of the situation, of oneself, of the other before and after.

They will tell you a lot.