2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43
(Folklore)
A month ago, while on vacation, I conducted self-therapy sessions, which can be found in the articles:
Today I want to continue my self-therapeutic work in order to understand how effective it can be.
- Natalia, I welcome you! What did you come with today?
- All with the same! Everything is good in life, happy with work, relationships with loved ones, everything is good except weight! Got up again and don't go down!
- As far as I remember, you have had such a picture for a long time, and at the same time, a month ago on vacation, there were some shifts for the better?
- Quite right! On vacation, in a Czech resort, I ate much more than at home, including "forbidden" buns and even drank beer! At the same time, the weight not only did not gain, but even decreased a little!
- What do you think caused the weight loss, despite the fact that, according to your words, you ate more than at home?
- Of course, the fact that I walked a lot!
- And what is the situation with this now?
- Honestly? No way … I got back into Skype and work there from morning to evening.
- Well, well.. And what about the food now?
- I still do not eat much, but sometimes I break down. Recently I went to a shoe shop, and there, on the way, first the Imperia Dresses store, and then the Sever-Metropol confectionery
- Interesting … And which institution, dear, Natalia, did you deign to visit?
- First, I went to the "Empire of Dresses" and realized that there is nothing good for my size and there is nothing two sizes smaller than mine! And even six sizes smaller than my current one, there is nothing! Only if the size is ten. And I thought that in order to lose these same ten sizes, I would need to strictly monitor the diet and do serious physical activity for at least a year, then maybe I will reach that very necessary condition, and maybe no … I remembered my namesake, the actress Natalia Krachkovskaya, who understood that she would never be truly slim, and that her charisma could not be hidden anywhere.
- And what does Krachkovskaya have to do with it?
- Moreover, Gaidai told her that there are many thin actresses, and Krachkovskaya alone! Maybe I, like Krachkovskaya, should learn to rejoice and accept myself in the forms in which I am. I went to the Sever and bought myself a Truffle cake and a milkshake to boot.
- Why did you do it?
- To experience the pleasure! Allow myself to rejoice here and now, and not wait when, with the help of great efforts, maybe in a year, I will buy myself a beautiful fitted dress, and the cake will delight me right now.
- How much joy did you get from the cake? If evaluated on a scale of 0 to 10 points. How would you rate the joy of the cake?
- By 4 points, approximately.
- Explain why not 10 points, the same joy “here and now, in the present moment”?
- The feeling of guilt was overshadowed …
- Before whom and for what?
- In front of me, for succumbing to momentary pleasure and pushing aside the joy of a higher order. Although, it is hardly possible, in general, to become truly slim. For people that 90 kg, that 70 kg is still a fat woman! The best version of me will still be far from perfect …
- Who told you that?
- Nobody! I myself know that if I can still cope with nutrition, heavy physical activity is beyond my strength …
- Why are they heavy at once? Remember, while on vacation, you promised to start your morning walks upon arrival home? Did they say something about Nordic walking? It seems that even "Finnish sticks" remained with you from the moment when you broke your leg? By the way, do you know that with fragile bones, and you have post-radiation osteoporosis, heavy weight contributes to multiple fractures?
- That's right. I have sticks, but I don’t go with them, I work from 8, although I get up at 6, I could have gone, but I don’t go. We know about weight and bones …
- Do you know that the wonderful and charismatic Krachkovskaya, in the last years of her life, suffered from severe ailments and did not leave the apartment, and the reason for this was the illness that provoked her overweight? Do you want this kind of life?
- I do not want.
- What do you want?
- Become the best version of yourself. In any case, the point is not in the dress, but in the fact that 70 kilograms, anyway, is better than ninety-two, as I have now and, even more, better than ninety-seven, as it was in winter …
- What will you do?
- Walk.
- Your first step? When will you start walking, walking, with or without sticks?
- Right now, after I publish this article, I will go to feed the ducks on a small river not far from my house.
The position of my therapist (and all specialists are required to undergo personal therapy once a year) is still vacant. It’s not because I don’t trust my colleagues. There is a huge number of specialists, respected by me, here!
I realized that I was looking for a special specialist! I need a therapist who has had a successful experience of losing 20 or more kilograms of weight, and most importantly, the experience of successfully maintaining weight within the normal range for many years.
In the meantime, such a specialist has not responded, I work with myself!
And, although I am a good and demanded specialist, the result of such self-therapy still leaves much to be desired! Even an excellent lawyer is not able to competently build his defense, and the best dentist in the world cannot heal his own teeth!
Recommended:
You Cannot Live To Satisfy. What Does Emotional Addiction "look Like" And What Can You Do About It?
The image of emotional dependence is unambiguous. This is HUNGER, emptiness and emotional WEAKNESS. "Emotional hunger" and "mental weakness" - this can also be said. We are all normally dependent, vulnerable and need other people.
About Intrinsic Value. "It Turns Out You Can Not Like It!"
It turns out you can not like it … More precisely, do not do it on purpose. Ok, now I'll tell you my story. A long long time ago, I learned long and hard to please others. Because … well, because "it should be." I suppose this is familiar to many.
The Dark Side Of Psychic Enlightenment, Or "You Are Not Like That, Do Not Believe Them!"
Take away from the screens delicate violets, fighters against punitive psychiatry, people living in the world of pink ponies, or who believe everything they write on the Internet (haha). It will be a professional burning longread (the version is as decent as possible, indecent on Patreon).
How Can You Change The Behavior You Don't Like? The Rational-emotional Method Of Albert Ellis
Albert Ellis is an American cognitive therapist and psychologist. He was one of the first to speak about the importance of the rational process of thinking in correcting violations of human behavior. Through his research as a psychotherapist, Ellis realized that most behavioral and emotional health problems stem from certain thoughts and attitudes.
If You Are Not Happy With How Your Child Is Not Doing Something As Well As You Would Like
- "Mom, look how I painted!" - “Well, what did you draw? What couldn't have done better? " Or this: - "Mom, look how I'm doing!" - "So what. You can do your best. " I didn't want to write about such a seemingly hackneyed topic as the topic of high expectations from a child.
