2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43
Quite often in a young family, the wife voluntarily takes on the role of such a caring hostess. She seems to be demonstratively busy with the housework, baking pies for her husband, preparing delicious borscht and cutlets. But all the same - something goes wrong, despite all her efforts.
The husband, as luck would have it, reacts to everything that happens in the opposite way, not as the troublesome spouse expected. She is very surprised and saddened that despite all her efforts in the household, her husband treats her colder and colder, and is more and more distant.
The reason for this paradox is quite simple. Until recently, a cheerful, perky, even a little mysterious girl, whom her man knew, before our very eyes, voluntarily turns into an uninteresting home clown.
The young wife slightly exaggerates her concern so that she becomes intrusive. At the same time, a woman, willingly or unwillingly, seeks to obtain secondary benefits. Such as making the husband feel that he is now obliged to be grateful, and to show this gratitude in the form of ideal love and care for her.
But worst of all, in this situation, the young woman completely loses her face. She voluntarily devalues herself in the eyes of her husband. Although, on the contrary, it seems to her that she has chosen the shortest path to increase her price in his eyes.
Perhaps this state of affairs will be consolidated in the family in the future, and with the birth of a child, the spouse will finally take the reins into their own hands. Now the husband will be obliged to provide for the "holy": mother, child, family.
Not surprisingly, not all men can withstand this kind of pressure. Some, in spite of all the maneuvers of the wife, still "get off the hook" and leave the family, which has become a bondage and captivity.
Someone is trying to initially voice their claims to the partner. But many men are not inclined to talk, to reasoning and showdown. It is much easier to go over to the side of a beautiful stylish colleague, or remember an old school love who is still not married.
A visit to a family psychologist will help to understand the role patterns of behavior, and possibly save the family, improve relations between the spouses.
