2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43
Why do we want so many followers? Why are there so many managers, leadership nurturing articles, and follower-oriented strategies?
Today, human fulfillment is determined by two criteria: money and followers. The more followers a person has, the more trust we show to him.
Recently, I noticed that from a number of similar videos, I choose the video with the most views. However, analyzing my choice critically, I notice that, in my personal experience, the number of views rarely correlates with the content, aesthetic or informative value of the material.
Why are we so eager to be leaders?
Krishnamurti once remarked: Are leaders needed in a society where everyone feels strong enough to make decisions for themselves?
Leaders are needed to guide people who are unable to guide themselves
The need for leaders naturally arises in a society in which the voice of a third person seems to be more weighty than his own.
We are used to relying on other people. We are waiting for the other person to tell us how it will be better. It only seems to us that we have freedom of thought, because we are relatively successful in everyday decisions: we determine ourselves which restaurant to go to, which movie to watch. Which president to vote for. At the same time, due to the existence of a way of thinking “who am I, I'd better rely on an expert?” We devalue our own intuition, our inner sense of correctness. We make decisions based on reason and ignore the sense of the right action. The mind, informed from the outside, transcends the sense of right action. This is because we are not taught to rely on a sense of right action.
Intuition, compared to the omniscient mind, is discounted at the collective level. This elusive feeling, which is difficult to localize, accompanies us wherever we go. However, in a culture where from early childhood we are taught to rely on adults, teachers, and professionals in their field who know how best - and not to learn to understand ourselves, to observe and draw conclusions based on direct direct experience of interaction with reality, - internal straight-knowledge in people are atrophied. Instead of straight knowledge - intuition - we are guided by common sense, reason, conventional wisdom, social truth. We rely on the truths developed in our culture and devalue our inner sense of right and wrong. Our inner straight-knowledge often contradicts the "truth" coming from outside. Devaluation of personal straight-knowledge aggravates in a person's soul the feeling that he is not capable, cannot solve problems arising in the field of his responsibility.
Inside, you must agree, you always know how to act correctly. Outside, however, there is a crushing coalition of experts talking about the right thing to do.
The purpose of my material is not to urge you to devalue the opinion of scientists, among whom there are really many people who are passionate about their work, interested in improving the life of each individual. The purpose of my work is to induce you to see that your personal instinct, straight-knowledge, intuition has the same value in interacting with tangible reality, as knowledge that came from outside.
At the moment of our development, due to the upbringing received, it is natural for a person to suppress his personal voice and flawlessly follow the experience of other people. Over time, the voices of other people become dominant in our life experience. From these voices, a filter is formed through which we perceive reality.
The general desire to manage, to lead, to be famous, to be known is dictated by the general lack of confidence in oneself, in one's personal truth; inability to feel self-sufficient, confirmed in their inner correctness. Striving for fame is a loud cry: listen! My truth is true! This is an attempt to prove to ourselves that we are right, that our point of view has a right to exist.
When people express love for us, accept us, we get the lost experience of total acceptance of ourselves as we are. And although this need is normal, and is the leading among human motivations, it often takes forms of expression that cannot be called mentally healthy and balanced.
The desire to control other people and the way they perceive us comes from a sense of insecurity. When we feel that the whole world is against us, a natural desire arises - to protect ourselves from its pressure. We want to control what other people think about us, say about us. The illusion of this control is created through the massive promotion of one's personality in social networks, gaining followers.
The flip side of such activity is the feeling that your image in the eyes of others needs to be constantly maintained. The pressure that this activity exerts on a person is inexpressible in words.
What should be learned from this reflection?
- Leadership is neither good nor bad. Striving for leadership is a feature of our being on the planet today. In its extreme manifestation, this desire generates an unhealthy preoccupation with one's own personality, the need to compete with other people. The result is that the other person is perceived as separate from us: a potential rival that we must surpass.
- Leaders exist because in an unconscious society (not necessarily always this way) people feel insecure and therefore want to be led. We are constantly looking for a parent to take responsibility for directing our lives. If a parent fails, he can always be blamed for mistakes.
- We are used to relying on third parties to make decisions about our lives at the expense of our inner compass - intuition. Such behavior arouses internal conflict and evokes feelings of personal inadequacy and deep individual defectiveness.
- We need to realize our responsibility for what is happening in our own lives and around the world as a whole. Having seen the reality in which we find ourselves now, we need to show courage and say to ourselves: yes, I see it. From this state, what do I choose to do next?
- Cultivating conscious activity is our next evolutionary step.
Here are a few key shifts that are already taking place in the minds of many:
- trust in personal experience in the first place;
- attentive, caring attitude to your emotions, accepting all emotions as bodily sensations, living them;
- awareness of another person as oneself (expansion of consciousness);
- the formation of consciousness "and, and" (all points of view - all internal "I" - have the right to exist, they are all fragments of a single reality).
Only if the above steps become part of each person's personal experience can we become self-sufficient and self-realized, connect with our gut and let go of the need for an external source of knowledge, realizing at the cellular level that the deepest wisdom of being is within ourselves.
Lilia Cardenas, integral psychologist, hypnologist, somatic therapist
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