2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43
Whenever a woman chooses to try, adjust, not strain a man, she reinforces her inner state of unworthiness.
Excuses "I can give myself whatever I want", "than to strain someone, it is easier to do everything myself" - a way not to hurt about a refusal that may follow in response to a request. Not to feel like "not like that" since she was refused.
On the one hand, she is great, she protected herself from unnecessary stress. On the other hand, she "bit her own tail." The brain received additional reinforcement of the belief "if I want something, this is not a reason to strain the world." What she tried to run away from will return with a vengeance.
To get something from this world, you need to be able to withstand stress.
Excite, stimulate potency, create tension (I do not mean "brain removal" and manipulation, but natural tension that arises when the needs of two people meet.
Be a persistent woman, not a modest girl
Without straining the world, a woman deprives herself of meeting him, of the opportunity to exchange something, defend and get her own. Yes, she will not be hurt by rejection, resistance or broken illusions, but she will become an understanding mother. Strong, determined on the outside, scared on the inside, always doubting her dignity. Will babysit the needs of the environment, with her man, who can not strain.
What for?
If the woman left him alone. It doesn't matter because of despair, feelings of unworthiness, fear or care.
If she can give herself whatever she wants.
And along with him, because he did not choose not to strain her.
We fall in love not with the person himself, but with the energy that he radiates.
Hence all the senselessness of the efforts of women to find some other secrets of the eternal love of a man.
The terrible thing of diligence.
A woman listens to some advice on the correct femininity, begins to diligently perform, and then she cannot come to her senses.
He will not understand how she ended up at the point where she selects the right words, intonations, the right moment. Shrinks in desires, is silent about feelings, adjusts to the situation.
The worst thing that a woman can do for a relationship is to adjust, be modest, remove her opinion, endure, quietly take offense. It kills all her energy. Kills a woman, gives birth to a patient mother who is trying to give birth to an adult man again, which in principle is impossible.
It's hard for a grown man to be a mom. To do this, you need to try very hard.
At first, a woman fusses a lot: unnecessary movements, unnecessary conversations, guesses the mood, pleases. From a fussy mother, you want to hide away in your "room". Or even not in his own.
At some point, a woman stumbles over her efforts, accumulates aggression, gets tired.
You look at her: it seems she is not an old woman, but there is almost no life left in her eyes. An airless space, a wetland in which both suffocate.
Will and desires have disappeared.
She herself disappeared.
The one whose fire and energy once fell in love with. Without any effort.
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