Learn To Ask

2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43

This text is about women and for women.

Although men will be interested in "what did she mean".

So, the list below will be familiar to many of the adult girls.

To ask is

• show weakness
• humiliate
• show that you are worse than you want to seem
• expose your "pain points" to the blow
• must be earned
• scary, what if they refuse
• to be addicted

Of course, this list is not complete, this is just the beginning. It seems that there is nothing of the sort in asking. Asking to hand over salt, asking to carry heavy bags, asking to change a wheel on the car, asking to read to a child - it is commonplace, simple, familiar. But no. How often for a woman, "just asking" turns into a whole act.

And it seems clear that it's easier for everyone if you just ask, but it doesn't work out. A whole series in my head unfolds about the events before, after and instead. The most terrible and disgusting expectations are born. And then, to replace the internal need to ask, a whole spectrum of emotions emerges.

All the feelings that a woman experiences after denying herself such a seemingly simple act are extremely unpleasant. From them everything inside is disgustingly trembling and annoying, itching. And all of them are designed to give her the opportunity NOT to ASK.

In order not to ask her, she is forced to:

• Take offense - of course, he didn't guess who he was going to ask for. And if this does not work out (too banal and transparent, which is even the most disgusting), then you can arrange a situation that will offend her. And then you don't have to ask - the alleged object of the request will himself be obliged to beg for what he needs to do in order for the offense to pass.
• Get angry - and initially again because he himself did not understand or did not delve into her subtle hints. And if it's so difficult, then any little thing will help in this matter. Uneven slippers? Anger, it gives so much strength that now it's not scary to ask.
• Blame him - well, at least in something. There will always be a reason. And if I am to blame, then I no longer ask, but demand. It is easier. I have the right. I'm sorry.
• Get upset to tears - such an old well-known method. Only here the point is not in the tears themselves. Here you have to bring yourself to such a state when inside there is really bitter grief, it’s hard with him, it interferes - then you can ask, because otherwise you will not get out.
• Tired to faint - everything is simple. Now you don't have to ask. Now you just need to collapse, and they will collect you, because you yourself can no longer. And here all your desires come true at once, it's not scary to ask, because this is already a matter of survival.
• Get sick - a similar option, but aggravated, as you understand. Because here, just getting enough sleep or unwinding will not solve all the consequences. Although a VIP ticket to the "ask what you want" box is issued for a longer period of time.

In this place, stones will naturally fly at me. What kind of person in his right mind and sober memory would deliberately create such nasty things for himself? I will deliberately not, I agree. Although, there are options. And the power of our subconscious, the power of our true desires and motivators work wonders … or nightmares. Whoever likes to call it more.

And if you tend to look at your own "want" as recklessness, whim and irresponsibility. And a request for help to become a lump in the throat or a burning sensation in the chest is probably worth doing for yourself every day feats, become oneself a hero. Here it means - to ask. This is risky, this is a zone of non-comfort. But it is the risky ventures that can usually bring the most profits.

As bonuses, we can get not only our own satisfaction and pleasure. What about the self-pride that did it? By asking just like that, you, on top of everything else, give people a chance to be close to you for real, to become closer and dearer. You give them a chance to make you a little bit happier. After all, they live and do not know that just like that they can bring you joy.

Yes, often in order to decide on such simple steps, you need to face your own insecurity, your own tendency to underestimate yourself, with love for yourself, finally. And also with trust. We trust ourselves, first of all, and then others.