2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43
An ideal woman through the eyes of a man is a wonderful muse, a life companion who knows how to support any conversation, listen and inspire to exploits. In bed, she knows how to guess and satisfy the desire of her beloved man. At home, she does an excellent job with all the household chores, as well as raising children. And most importantly, she is admired by his friends
If a woman is not interesting to other men, then she becomes not interested in hers either. Remember any party - when all the guys follow one, the brightest and most interesting girl.
Ideal woman through the eyes of a woman - it's all the same. Sometimes the question of work is also added - she must definitely make a dizzying career. For men, this is not so important in a woman.
There is a conflict between expectations and reality. No healthy woman is able to perform all of these points at the same time. There is always something that she doesn’t keep up with, or something that she likes to do more. Internal conflicts are the main cause of stress and neurosis, dissatisfaction with freedom.
Myths, our illusions about an ideal woman with a crystal ringing are smashed to smithereens, causing a feeling of disappointment, dissatisfaction, resentment, misunderstanding in the family. After all, a woman is so eager to meet the expectations of her beloved man.
A young woman even wants to prove to her mother - you see, I can also be a kind of mistress (wife, professional), finally appreciate my efforts! Unbeknownst to herself, she is harnessed to a cart, which turns out to be very, very heavy. All her efforts are shifted to the area of the economy or work, or only to children, and her husband departs to the second (fifth, tenth) plan. In general, ideals remain somewhere out there, in another world, in books and in glossy magazines.
This is where an algorithm of actions to get out of this situation is born:
1. Understand who you really are. Separate your desires from the expectations of the people around you. Live the way you want, not others.
2. Set life priorities I am a man-children-home-work.
3. Try to balance your roles depending on your priorities and life circumstances
A woman is born unique and free, with amazing powers and capabilities. But from early childhood, the girl is forbidden to do what she wants with the help of numerous prohibitions and "you must" attitudes. As a result, an adult woman once runs into a "glass ceiling" when it seems that there is no possibility of development - relationships with a man, motherhood, career, creativity, fulfillment of desires. It seems that it depends on many external circumstances and other people. And this is infinite in my head: "I must be a good housewife … I must be an ideal mother … an ideal wife, etc."
A man is born strong and wayward, independent. He has fewer prohibitions in childhood, but more "caring" caring mother's hands. Mom loves her little boy very much, it is he who is her long-awaited prince. As a result, he grows up with the image of a certain “mother” who must take care of him, who has grown up and become dependent. He expects too much from a woman - she must combine the image of his mother with the image of a mistress, which he came up with in a teenage objection while watching an interesting movie.
- Vasya, what would you say if you met a woman who will forgive everything, will be kind, affectionate, gentle and cook well ???
- Hello mother…
Adults remain children, with childish ideas and expectations about the ideality of each other. Exit? Grow up! But soon the tale tells itself, but not soon the work is done. It is impossible to force another to grow up. You can only start with yourself.
Axiom: The ideal woman is the one who is real. Who knows how and is not afraid to be herself. She doesn't need to prove anything to anyone
5 steps towards your ideal self in the field of personal attitudes:
Step 1: I don't owe anyone anything.
Step 2: Nobody owes me anything.
Step 3: I am next to the man I love. I accept him as he is. I respect his hobbies and passions. I do not seek to remake and re-educate him. He is not for me the main object of care and attention (son). He's a grown man. If something is wrong with this item, you need to think about the relationship in which you are.
Step 4: I know all my strengths and weaknesses. I accept all of them from start to finish. I am proud of who I am.
Step 5: I love myself in all my glory, inward and outward. I am free from other people's opinions - both praise and condemnation. I myself choose the vector of my development and follow it. I live the way I want.
An exercise. Take a sheet, divide it into four parts: My strengths, My weaknesses, Hinders Me, Helps Me. Everything that bothers me in the square needs to be corrected, try to get rid of it. Everything that helps me in the square needs to be developed, expanded, deepened.
This is not a one-day journey. But standing on it, you will one day notice that you have become the queen of all the parties you come to. And your man cannot take his admiring eyes off you.
I believe that every woman can be happy regardless of external circumstances. The faster we open our eyes to the existing reality, the less pain from unfulfilled illusions.
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