2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43
Beginning Loneliness vs Depression. Francine.
A special case of passivity is when the client feels so lonely and unhappy, dependent and suffering that he remains indifferent to everything that happens. While depression and melancholy are usually also observed, it is the estrangement from other people that is the main cause of the suffering of these clients.
It is often difficult to distinguish between the manifestations of loneliness and manifestations of depression in the same client, or to decide whether the mood disorder is biologically determined or situationally explainable. It is possible that scientists will someday be able to detect the genetic or biochemical factors of loneliness and depression (assuming that these are two different conditions).
The qualitative difference between loneliness and depression is that its main cause is a lack of communication or dissatisfaction with their social interactions. This experience is a kind of hunger for human communication, and its intensity is such that a person literally dies from a lack of love.
Unfortunately, similar (described in the previous note) "accidents" are not uncommon, but one should not forget about those unfortunate, suffering people who only seem to be alive, but in fact go through life in deep loneliness. Loneliness is currently the most common psychological problem, although you will not find it mentioned in any textbook.
Clients like Francine are difficult to treat. Medication is usually ineffective because, strictly speaking, these clients suffer less from depression than from loneliness and social isolation. The client's feelings of despair and hopelessness are often reflected in the therapist's mood. Markowitz describes psychosomatic symptoms (in particular, feeling of heaviness and abdominal pain) experienced by a therapist who is forced to work with a client suffering from severe depression and loneliness: “By definition, depression undermines the hope that underlies the client's motivation to work in psychotherapy. and clients with depression are notorious for undermining a clinician's confidence in themselves.”
Personally, when I work with persistent in their loneliness, passive people, not those who suffer from endogenous depression, but who have chosen a certain Lifestyle style for themselves and cling to it no matter what, I feel a huge relief that I am not in their place. I am literally enraged by their defeatist moods, I do not understand how you can give up when there are many ways out of the situation!
As for recommendations for working with passive, lonely clients, they can be found in a large number in the literature. Thus, it is proposed to train the client to use his loneliness creatively; increase his desire for change by offering stricter social exclusion; reduce dependence on a partner; look at your problems differently; take advantage of your loneliness to start a close relationship; take a more active life position.
When working with passive, lonely clients, the following strategies can be effective:
1. Encourage the willingness to take risks by building relationships with others and honestly analyzing their problems.
2. Recommend less often watching TV, listening to the radio, and instead attending various recreational activities and face to face with previously avoided problems.
3. Lead the client to recognize the importance of free time - a prerequisite for creativity and self-expression.
4. Teach the client to perceive their loneliness as a conscious solitude.
five. Encourage the client to take advantage of forced loneliness to honestly admit their need for close relationships with others.
Generally the therapist's efforts are primarily aimed at helping clients see meaning in their suffering, as well as providing them with support in getting out of social isolation … Therapeutic interaction naturally becomes a testing ground for new types of behavior. What Francine needed most was for her therapist to see her not only as a patient, a client, a depressed woman, or a source of information for keeping records (as she confessed to me the day before her death), but a living person, a person. She only wanted a little sympathy and understanding.
Jeffrey A. Kottler. The compleat therapist. Compassionate therapy: Working with difficult clients. San Francisco: Jossey-Bass. 1991
Recommended:
I'm Still Waiting, But No Longer Suffering Or A Way Out Of Codependency
You know, my soul finally became calm. This feeling is like the mirror surface of a deep lake. There are no more stormy impulses of anxiety, cold rain of disappointment, icy fear and searing rage. Did I stop loving you? No. For a year now, I have been thinking about you every day, it is important for me that everything is fine with you - the business develops, the trainings make you happy … And the thought that you may have another one is not pleasant to me.
The Client's Need To Supervise The Therapist. Difficult Client - Manipulation In Psychotherapy
Manipulation can be defined as "arbitrarily influencing or controlling other people in order to gain benefits through persuasion, deception, seduction, coercion, induction or guilt." This term is almost always used to describe the client's attempts to control the relationship;
Loneliness As A Comfort Zone. Getting Rid Of Loneliness
Loneliness as a comfort zone. Getting rid of loneliness. One of the reasons for loneliness is that loneliness suits its owners. To find a couple and start building a relationship, you need to make an effort, and often considerable. And for loneliness you don't need to do anything
Such Different Therapy: The Client "I Want" And The Client "I Must"
SUCH DIFFERENT THERAPY: THE CLIENT "WANT" AND THE CLIENT "NADO" In the psyche of a mature person I want and need to get along harmoniously, desires and obligations. I continue the topic raised in the articles “Between Need and Want and the Double Trap of Relations I am not a supporter of the typology of clients and their requests, and in therapy I emphasize the individuality of the client's personality and the uniqueness of his request.
Existential Loneliness. Types Of Loneliness
Existential loneliness is a kind of longing, strong mental anxiety combined with sadness and boredom, which a person experiences constantly or at certain periods of life. Let's take a closer look - what is this state, how is it experienced, what are the reasons for its occurrence?
