Age Crisis In Women

2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43

With age, many women become neither prettier, nor smarter, nor kinder, nor more talented, but only get worse. In their youth they were curious, but now they became boring, they were fresh, and now they just wither, in their youth they were cheerful, but they became dull.

By itself, female "maturity" is associated with labor exploits, motherhood, household and intellectual partnership with a man, but not with beauty and sexuality.

Let's try to figure out the reasons for this.

Imagine a fruit tree, since we are using the word "mature", growing in a climate unsuitable for it (a person differs from a tree in that he creates a climate for himself). Suppose such a tree blooms and even sets fruits, but these fruits never ripen to full maturity.

That is, they do not get big, bright, sweet and juicy, full of seeds, they remain green, small and sour. Nevertheless, these sour little fruits can be made into wines and sauces for meat, so the fruits are harvested in early summer. If you do not pick it at the beginning of summer, then the fruits will simply dry out, become tough and wrinkled, never ripening to sweetness and juiciness.

So what's the point in waiting until the end of summer, if the best thing that can be taken from such fruits is freshness and they are not capable of more?

A lot of people, and this is especially true for women, unfortunately, are experiencing the best period of their lives in their youth. Then they never become either prettier, or smarter, or kinder, or more talented, but only get worse. In their youth they were curious, and then they become boring, in their youth they were fresh, and then they just wither, in their youth they were cheerful, and then they become dull.

In all respects, they become worse with age than they were. Instead of turning typical youthful curiosity into extraordinary intelligence, ordinary youthful freshness into individual beauty, frivolous youthful gaiety into conscious love of life, they also lose what they have. Green, sour, but soft and fresh fruit, much better than the same green, but already bitter and tough fruit. This fruit has aged and never fully ripened.

It seems to some that the advantages of adolescence over maturity are undeniable, since a person loses plasticity in maturity. But plasticity is not an advantage in and of itself. We want plasticity from a person or an object when we need to change it, but when it finally became what we need, we do not want plasticity, we want stability and stability.

That is, plasticity is a plus for those who have nothing yet, but a minus for those who do, and thank God that in maturity, plasticity becomes less, and more stability appears. High plasticity gives the absence of principles and beliefs, the earth constantly escaping from under our feet, changeable tastes, changeable views.

High impressionability gives susceptibility to other people's influence. Plasticity is a blessing for a child, since he has not yet grown up, but maintaining high plasticity throughout his life means never growing up.

The overripe infantile differs in that he has already conserved the form, but left his content soft, which is why he is not too capable of developing, but at the same time he has nothing formed either. He is like a fruit, the skin of which has become stiff, and inside is rot, which will gradually dry out, and then old age will come.

In wise old age, a kernel of a nut is formed inside, which has collected all the best that a person has done, learned and realized, in the form of algorithms (therefore, you need to learn from such old people), in a senseless old age, the nut inside is dust, what should have formed a strong core, it just crumbles.

That is, those who say that youth has an advantage over maturity in its plasticity simply do not understand what formation is. It's like a sculptor rejoicing that his clay never solidifies, and that everything he sculpts can be redone over and over again, endlessly.

If human clay never lost its plasticity and maturity never came, this would mean that the sculptor never blinded anything, but was constantly in the process of alteration. That is, the ability to solidify a form is a great opportunity for a person to begin his existence without being in the process of melting again and again.

A certain plasticity is preserved in a person until old age, but it becomes less, in order to fix the best that he managed to acquire, to fix it and not to lose it. A developed internal resource remains with a person forever, and if his plasticity were infinite, a person could not create anything in himself, he would constantly crumble like a sand house. And that would be very sad.

Let's return now to our mature but attractive woman. Obviously, in this mature woman, something fixed, that is, formed, should be something that has gathered enough energy and developed, and plasticity should be preserved in what is being worked with.

A young girl receives external resources of image and sex in advance (external resource of image means the attention and sympathy of others for youth and freshness, external resource of sex means the presence of many people ready for sex and even willing to pay for sex). Not all young girls get the same advance, some get a lot, others a little, but they still get more than this advance will be ten years later. They have ten to fifteen years to pump these resources.

If they pump resources, they become queens after thirty years, no, the carriage will turn into a pumpkin. Of course, this will only apply to these resources, with other resources everything is different, there may not be any advances at all. But, if, for example, a person has capital from his parents, the scheme is about the same. He must learn to do business, otherwise the capital will gradually run out, and he will never learn to multiply it, and he will not acquire other skills either, since he had capital and had something to live on.

That is, a large advance is an insidious thing, it deprives you of the incentive to develop. But this does not mean that the advance takes away something, no, it gives, but at the same time it has a relaxing effect like any gratuitous good. Nevertheless, any good is precisely good, not evil.

Therefore, to go in their reasoning to the point that beautiful girls are in a worse position than ugly ones, since they have more temptation to become kept women and idlers, is still superfluous. This is the same as beginning to seriously feel sorry for the children of rich parents and envy the poor that they have more compulsion. In fact, the advance payment has its advantages, but it also has its disadvantages. If the cons are known and prevented, only the pros will remain.

The older a woman gets, the fewer people who want to get to know her. This is true only if the woman has not pumped up the image resource. If you have pumped, then the number of admiring fans will increase in proportion to the strength of the pumping. But since most of the resources are still not pumped, there is more attention and sympathy in youth than later.

If a woman, being at a young age, has connected and at least slightly pumped up the resource of love, a gradual decrease in attention will be quite comfortable for her. The resource of love gives a very high selectivity of the desired attention. If the resource of love is very relevant, but not pumped at all, a woman can begin to actualize the resource of her image more and more, and if she fails to pump it, then what is often called the "women's crisis of 30 years" will begin.

The closer to this date, the more terrible and disgusting it is to live, especially if the work resource is not connected and there are no children. But if there are children, and in love there is zero and the image is not pumped up, the woman also feels pretty bad, although already born children push the critical border, sometimes by ten years.

What is a boosted image resource? As Renata Litvinova said in some program, and she can be to some extent a model of a person with a pumped-up image, "I'm not beautiful, I just do it, and you can do it too." She meant this acquisition of integrity and the synthesis of three dimensions: character, body, style.

Ideally, each of the quantities should be maximally developed, but the main thing is synthesis, harmony and synergy of all parts, their combination should be more than the sum and different. That is, it is good when the body does not have obvious flaws, but an ugly body combined with character through a very correctly chosen style (clothing, speech, manners, accessories) can give rise to an image that will stop attention and make this person remember.

The task of the image is to make a person unique, directing someone else's energy to himself, but at the same time evoking positive emotions, therefore eccentrism is not the best method. The ideal image is almost invisible, in the sense that it is not clear what parts it consists of, what is so special about it, but at the same time it does not take your eyes off the person, captures his image, makes this image stand out, all other things being equal, to reach for him …

That is, the ideal image has magnetism and collects positive attention to itself. A little bit of negative sometimes doesn't hurt either, but there should be a measure here, both in hot and bitter seasonings.

I will continue the topic of female initiation, it is very large, but this example already shows how a girl differs from a woman. Youth is characterized by mediocrity. Children are painfully afraid to be different from their peers, adolescents also do not like to stand out, except in the framework of a subculture circle, when there is support from their own.

Sometimes adolescents, on the contrary, organize a riot and want to be different, but it looks hysterical and more often than not ugly, precisely because the image of a teenager cannot be pumped, except in some special cases. A teenager should be under the influence, let the social stream pass through himself, he needs less "his", since he has not yet collected someone else's, has not absorbed what he still needs to absorb.

This is the essence of adolescent plasticity, and its charm. Everyone is fascinated by potential energy, and rightly so. But this is also a minus of the image of young girls. They are really beautiful and more often than not they look like thousands of others.

It's bad when an adult woman is just like thousands of other, but now also middle-aged women. She lost what she had, but gained nothing. Fortunately, some women acquire their own style, their own identity by the age of adult, and these are not empty words.

Empty, when there is no selfhood or any real beingness behind the "originality", but when they stand, it really creates a very strong magnetism and makes people fall in love with this image. It is not necessary to have an image pumped up to the degree of magnetism, but even a small pumping of the image is already able to compete with what is called the "charm of youth", since the latter is collectively, and not individually.

It's like comparing an author's painting of cups with a factory stamping. But attention, the author's painting does not mean talentless daub. In this case, any neat factory cup is, of course, prettier.