About Assholes

2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43

Word "asshole" universal. It describes an absolutely specific concept - a person with a certain and, surprisingly, all known set of personal qualities, which is an absolutely exhaustive characteristic of their bearer.

Asshole - a creature exclusively male floor. The word has no form for women. "Mudila" is just a slightly softer synonym.

Origin: From Old Russian. mudy - eggs (part of the body), asshole (he is an ox) - a castrated bull.

It appears Asshole in a relationship and in a relationship.

Asshole man very charismatic and at the beginning of a relationship may look like "Macho": handsome, charming, intelligent, attentive, makes an excellent impression, inspires confidence, and is popular with women. Magnetic attraction Asshole for members of the opposite sex it seems almost supernatural.

What is the flaw? The flaw is in the shower. Rather - in its lack. Lack of soul is lack of conscience and feelings. Undoubtedly, Asshole can imitate feelings very well. But the only real feeling that drives him and makes him play out various dramas in order to make an impression is a kind of "predator hunger", the desire to get what he wants. Seems to be the only question taking up Asshole, boils down to the following: "Can this be used" for food "?", that is, be useful to him or bring benefit. His whole life obeys this style of behavior - the search for a victim.

Distinctive feature The asshole is simple - he's lying. Moreover, he lies with such ease that it is difficult to suspect him of this very lie. By building the logic of their reasoning in a very cunning way - without speaking, thus inviting the interlocutor to fill in the "blank spots" himself. Clarity is not about Mudake.

Feelings of guilt Asshole completely absent (as well as sympathy, empathy). By manipulating, he will always strive to impute this guilt to the victim. “You knew what you were doing”, “You yourself came to me”, “It was you who forced me”, “What did you expect, since you agreed to such a relationship?” - favorite phrases Asshole.

Manipulation is generally the main style of behavior Asshole … He can feign false emotions to evoke sympathy: "I am so unhappy in marriage," "I want children so much," "No one understands me." Thus, the pity factor is one of the reasons why victims often fall in love with these “poor” people.

Sometimes Asshole he can easily say with a heavy sigh: "Well, this is me, what can you do …" or "I learned to kill feelings in the bud, because I don't want more pain", or even "I am a terrible person." Does it sound like remorse? That's it, that only looks like - no more. There are no feelings behind such repentance. Repentance is pain and regret from what you have done, and pain from the inability to change what has already happened. Asshole - not able to feel pain emotionally.

Asshole feels upset about not getting what he wants - and for him it is pain.

And repentance is about responsibility, about admitting your guilt. BUT Asshole would rather resort to accusation than take responsibility. He is inclined to blame everyone, anyone (from past to present) for his bad mood and life troubles. And he enchantingly turns out to bring down his accusations on close people - those who are most defenseless in front of him.

By the way, responsibility is that danger for Asshole, from which he prefers to quickly retreat. When in a relationship he senses such a danger (a friend got pregnant, got sick, God forbid, something serious, or insists on marriage) - then the usual tactic is to break the relationship and "You are to blame."

Being out of relationship Asshole cannot, so he always has a "fallback". He also does not know how to deepen and develop relationships - for this, sincerity is needed, and "you want to eat something" - so he takes in quantity.

Just an asshole - a man of his word. But not the case. If you have difficulties, he will definitely say something like: "You can always count on me" or "If you need something - say." But once you really say or ask, more often than not, he will have other plans, or he will be too tired, busy with urgent business, or even “out of reach”. And even if he fulfills your request, he will remember it to you.

What can you learn from Asshole - so it is to pay undivided attention to the object of his interest and the pressure with which he acts to achieve his own goal. In our age of the Internet, everything has become much easier in this sense for Mudakov. It is much easier to imitate feelings on the Internet than in real life - an emoticon in love, a painted bouquet, a song on the wall, like strokes. All this is less energy consuming for Asshole. Because his main need in a relationship is not to give, but to take.

Assholes sometimes they create families and have children. Yes, and it happens. True, never, in such families, there is neither sincerity, nor true intimacy, nor unity of souls. And there are scandals, betrayal, jealousy, and at least a few crippled lives.

What is it all the same Asshole really gets from his victim?

The answer may sound absurd to a normal person: The asshole enjoys making others suffer.

If you are lucky enough to get out of a relationship with Asshole, then I think it's worth knowing about such his ability as "the ability to return." Why is he coming back? Yes, for the simple reason, to check whether you are still "on the hook" of the victim, depending on Asshole.

How to live with an asshole?

Before you go to meet Mudaku (respond emotionally) that is, before you decide to renew a relationship with Asshole, remember - why did you break up? How important is it to you now what caused the breakup? Remember how it was last time?

You can argue and say that people change.

Yes, people change, Mudaki no

Asshole does not see any psychological and emotional problem in himself and his behavior. Doesn't see anything wrong in his actions. He is quite pleased with his inner state and way of thinking.

The asshole sees no reason at all to change

33 times in the post mentioned the word "Asshole". Chur-chur-chur, save my life to run into the Asshole again - and one was more than enough for me J

But seriously, no one is safe from such a meeting.

And as a wish, to everyone who read the post to the end:

First: Recognized an asshole - turn on the self-preservation instinct and run! Staying with him in a relationship (friendly, loving) is to destroy yourself. Assholes don't change.

Second: Even if you were unlucky in life and ran into an asshole, this does not mean that everyone men such. Men - they are mostly good J

Third: If it does happen in life that “one is an asshole” and “two” and “three”, then, excuse me, is already a system. And here it is worth dealing with your own "patterns" of behavior: what is there in your behavior that you attract these same assholes like a magnet? Unless, of course, you enjoy the pain.

On the topic, you can read the book by Irina Melnichenko "Panopticon of assholes" - it is about psychological and emotional abuse. The task of the book is to help women notice danger signals in time, to recognize an asshole even before it becomes excruciatingly painful, and for those who have already encountered these representatives of the male genus, it is easier to cope with their experiences and understand that they are not alone.

And finally, a short movie)