Similarity. Chronic Internal Conflict

2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43

Is the person in direct contact with himself?

What, in fact, is the system of man's ideas about the world created from? Why is it so difficult to get rid of chronic internal conflict?

- Dad, I will become like you, - the son asks his father, - when will I grow up?

- Of course, son, - the parent answers without hesitation.

To be similar - to be the same in relation to beliefs and traditions, in rules and principles, in craft and preferences …

A sincere answer to a serious question of a child, heard from generation to generation, from family to family. The father's idea of the future of his son. The answer has many options. For example, something like this:

- No, son. You will not become like me. Like a mom, like your uncle or your grandfather. You cannot become us, just as we cannot become you. You don't need it. You will be yourself.

Mom and I are your parents. We gave birth to you. In you are our qualities and many more that we do not have. We are just trying to give you everything that will allow you to survive in this world.

The older you get, the more you will become. We know a lot about this world, but not all of this knowledge is complete, although it seems to you that way today. Therefore, try to listen to yourself more and independently seek answers to your questions.

Why did the father choose the answer he chose? Perhaps as a boy, he heard it from his father? The authority of the parent, at that time, extended to much that was said to him. Boy accepted the answer "on faith", and his childish thought built an order about the similarity of his son to his father.

Before asking his father, the child perceived reality as many answers … At the moment of the answer, the similarity became a bridge. A bridge between reality and the idea of reality in the mind of the child. From now on, what is happening, either strengthened the similarity, or was rejected thought as contradicting it.

Thought, by nature, tends to be consistent. routes of their movement. The rut of approach to a certain thing or phenomenon, once rolled back by her, is preferred, then, to others. Why build additional rail tracks to your destination if one of them already exists? Logically, from the point of view of energy saving and safety is ensured - the path has already been beaten, the train passed along it and returned without loss.

Thoughts are safer to deal not with reality itself, but with its intermediaries - images of reality, arbitrarily chosen from a variety of options. Arbitrariness of choice is based on authoritative opinion. People, in the community, hold the authority over whoever's actions and behaviors, collectively, lead to the best results, as a rule.

Growing up, the boy, filled the "basket" of his similarity with more and more facts and events. Emotional experiences. Visual images. Olfactory, tactile, gustatory matching. And concepts are words that indicate similarity and represent its meanings to one's own consciousness. The contents of the basket, periodically, were thrown aside, having lost their relevance or changed without significantly affecting the essence.

The similarity was gaining more and more influence. It served as the foundation on which a person formed his own rules and principles, built beliefs and attitudes, based values and sculpted identity. Similarity has grown into other similarities, intertwining with them. Served as a building material for new, similar stereotypes of thinking.

The similarity construct has a strict and consistent order of interaction of all its elements. Like every living and open system, similarities have a clear hierarchy, center and periphery. Analyzing the structure and principles of the existence of the only similarity, we analyze the entire system of stereotypical thinking, the system of ideas about the world around us and ourselves, which human thought uses, replacing direct contact with the real world … It is like the sole on a shoe that mediates between the soil and the skin of the foot.

The key quality of similarity is its incompleteness. She is able to represent only part of reality. A specific piece. Sooner or later, fragmentation leads to a conflict with that part of reality that could not be represented … In the example of the son and the father, the conflict will arise when the son's qualities, inherent only in him, lead him to actions that do not coincide with the expectations of the father.

When an adult man, under the pressure of facts and periodic conflicts with himself and the world, tries to doubt the loyalty of one or another of his own, then he will need to apply serious enough work to change what has been created and strengthened for more than one year. But, even after realizing the erroneousness of his idea, after an emotional release in a specialist's office or at a friend's desk, he, more often than not, continues to carry a conflict within himself. After all, he acted on one similarity, and not on the entire system.