When You Don't Want Anything

2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43

“If you do what you don’t want to do for a long time, you don’t want to do what you want to do”

Losing contact with your desires is a dangerous symptom. This is the threshold of depression, loss of meaning in life and suicidal thoughts.

In a healthy case, we do not want anything when we have just fulfilled our desire, achieved the goal and enjoy the aftertaste. The result is joy. The joy of natural pauses between events, but when there is no joy, no desire, no enthusiasm to live, then something needs to be done with it. If you do nothing with this, your health will begin to be actively destroyed.

Energy is given to a person for desires and goals. And if so, then de-energization with the loss of contact with oneself is a natural process leading to inhibition of metabolic processes and a breakdown in bodily health.

The breakdown of health can be seen as the body's last attempt at giving you meaning. To undergo treatment in order to restore the health of the body, the owner of which does not know why to live, is a thankless and therefore ineffective occupation. We have cases of "miraculous healing" from the most terrible diseases, and if we look closely at the basis of this "miracle", we will always find a new meaning in the healed (for which he chose to live and be healthy).

The meaning of “being treated”, basically, has no interest in life, but the fear of death, and this is not the most pleasant motivation.

So how can you revive the joy of “wanting”?

Let's first look at what it looks like to lose contact with desires.

If you at least partially agree with this picture described below, then you should read this article to the end.

Here you will notice that your friends are traveling, rejoicing. You go to any network - people brag about their achievements, purchases, gifts, creativity, children, post all sorts of colorful photos about the big and small joys of life. If you look at this and catch yourself that despite the joy for them or irritation or envy (which are the two sides of the same coin) you are sad … You sigh realizing that you do not want any of this. Look at the couples smiling cheerfully at you from the photograph, at their "kisses", family celebrations, friendly gatherings and catch yourself that you do not want any of this. What then?

You have to do something about this and, most importantly, you can do something about it because this tendency not only leads to decreased activity, but is also the most common reason for gaining excess weight. And feeling yourself not in the best shape leads to a loss of enthusiasm, and this, in turn, is the most common reason for the lack of personal relationships.

Man is a unique creature, the only living creature that can die long before death. And even having lost all the clues and threads connecting him with living life and, in fact, dying in his soul, he continues to exist as long as his biological clock is ticking and the body's time has not yet expired.

Getting back in touch with desires is actually easier than it sounds. For an effective process of restoring contact with your desires, you need to familiarize yourself with the above five points, preceding the technique of returning to yourself. It is the understanding of these five points that is the key to the productive application of the very technique of returning to oneself creative inspiration, enthusiasm, desires and joy of life!

Five points that set you up for productive work with yourself:

1. Acknowledge that there is a problem

2. Accept that in order to solve it, you will need to focus on what is usually not given time, considering it not important.

3. Be ready to regularly shift your focus from peripheral affairs to yourself until it becomes a habit.

4. It is important to realize that the matter of paramount importance is the Man himself (he has it).

5. Agree that when a person is in good shape mentally and mentally, then all the processes of his life and all those close to him win.

There is a proven technology for bringing passion back to life.

Observing leaders, successful monarchs, and restless figures shows that they treat themselves differently in everyday life.

The study of how people grew up and were brought up with initiative and open lives, and what made them so resourceful, allowed me to derive a technology that was tested in psychological practice and led to remarkable results.

Five Steps to Rekindle Contact with Desires:

1. Put aside great meanings, great goals and all sorts of "must" as completely as possible. Focus on your smallest whims. For example, while reading this article are you sitting comfortably? And if you think about it, feel into your body? Do you want to straighten or bend your leg, or do you want to stand up and make yourself a coffee? Going out into the fresh air or using the toilet? It's good if you take a break now and can do something that you want, but it seems unimportant to be distracted. Why are we doing this? Answer: we rehabilitate contact with ourselves, we return ourselves to the here and now. To return to yourself it is enough to ask yourself “what do I want right now?”. Sometimes these desires are even smaller, such as to straighten hair, scratch or shift body weight to another half drunk:). Our goal is to start pampering ourselves like a little beloved child. Every 10 minutes ask yourself “what I want now” and find something that you can do right now.
2. Start giving yourself little gifts that are sweet to the touch and delightful. And most importantly, they should be almost completely meaningless. There should not be many such items presented to yourself, it can be one item. For example, a keychain is plush, rubber or with a natural stone; maybe a fun ballpoint pen. Designate this item as an ally in regaining your contact with yourself and always carry it around, hold it in your hands when you are sad. It tactilely returns your presence to the body, and the body lives in the present moment its true needs. A thing is an ally, like a rosary or an amulet, in contrast to useful "things-servants". They don't use real friends either, but the joy that communicating with them gives us is worth a lot and is sometimes priceless.
3. Start fixing your gaze on beauty, as you understand it. Let yourself get stuck in contemplation of beauty. Find it in nature or art. Pay attention to details: bumps, dents, overflows, lines, color combinations. Breathe it in and catch the joy in your heart. Feel how a smile begins to illuminate your face, remember yourself like that. Memorize yourself bodily in this emotion.
4. Allow yourself to touch the surfaces that grab your attention. Allow yourself to feel with your fingertips how something that looks funny has been done. Do this whenever possible in public places if it does not harm anyone and feel the happiness of allowing yourself to return to the state of a child - impulsive, inquisitive, and most importantly successful ("I want - I do - I get - I am happy"). Live the experience of being able to afford more than you think you can. Kings were raised differently than mere mortals. At a tender age, the son of the monarch was allowed everything. And in such a field, the child grows up confident, clear and curious. It is such a person who feels not only his desires, but also world trends. Contact with our whims, cultivates vitality in us, makes us more proactive, powerful, alive, and happy.
5. Touch people with words. Of course, this is not about criticism, it's about compliments and just expressing thoughts out loud. Just as with the objects of the surrounding world, here you will need to pay attention to clothing, appearance, qualities and behavior of a person. If you notice something that your gaze lingered on, compliment the person directly, like a child: “you have such a beautiful fastener / such an unusual eye color…”. Even if you are completely unfamiliar (if strangers are difficult, start with friends). When meeting with friends, remember that you have the back of telling people compliments, telling them your observations and paying attention to details, personality traits (kindness, humor, unexpected judgments) and return to the person or friend what you think you feel about it.

It is important (!) To understand that reading the above points, even if it seems to you that you already do some of these points from time to time, even if you catch yourself thinking “I already know all this”, start following these recommendations …

It will be great if you get yourself a notebook and write down your fresh thoughts, describe unusual situations or sudden insights.

It will be great if you set yourself an alarm clock so that it calls you several times several times (4-10) a day and "wakes you up" returning your attention to yourself.

If you declare yourself a "hunt for yourself", you will perform the above practices and record your trophies in a notebook, you will not only be reborn in the most amazing state that all spiritual adepts are looking for "presence in the here and now", but you will additionally "kill two birds with one stone”: you will regain your desires and become very interesting people for others. And what follows this, I think you yourself guess.

Have a good hunting!