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Why is spontaneity necessary?
Spontaneity, in every person's life, is as important as we underestimate it. Literally the word "spontaneity" is translated from Latin as "free will". It is she who allows us to feel vitality, enjoy every manifestation of life, take an active part in our own destiny, and not just go with the flow in an incomprehensible direction.
This is a basic resource that is given to a person from birth, but is used less and less as he grows up. In childhood, we are guided by internal impulses, but over time, social framework, morality, rules and laws make their own adjustments. There are generally accepted norms of behavior, under the influence of which many lose their ability to be spontaneous. In front of inner impulses, we are stopped by the fear of being misunderstood by society and rejected. The existential anxiety of loneliness forces us to choose more conformal behaviors supported by society. Spontaneity also presupposes the disclosure of one's own self, without masks, games and pretense, as a result of which a person becomes very vulnerable in his manifestations and impulses, may lose a sense of security.
What is spontaneity?
When you think about who a “spontaneous person” is, how he behaves, what he is interested in and what he does, what is the first thing that comes to your mind? Most likely, this is a kind of collective image - a cheerful, easy-going, bright, sociable, non-conforming, interesting person who easily establishes contacts with others, who does not hesitate to show his own emotions and live according to his interests.
But this description does not always coincide with reality. It often turns out that such seemingly independent and spontaneous people behave according to a certain pattern, being prisoners of their own image. According to Jung's analytical psychology, the human psyche contains several components - internal archetypes. These include the persona and the self. In short, a persona is a public face of a person, an image that a person presents to others, a social mask. Selfhood is the true, deep, real self of a person, which unites the conscious and unconscious and is an integral manifestation of personality. It is important to understand that spontaneity has nothing to do with a person, but is a product of selfhood, because it is born under the influence of internal, socially not conditioned, impulses.
Spontaneity is not outrageousness or impulsiveness; it has little to do with relaxedness, infantilism and immaturity, dementia and courage. This is the ability (talent!) To be yourself, in harmony with the inner world, to be here and now, just to be. In spontaneity, we open up, we are real, we exist in the moment, this is how we can truly meet ourselves and with other people, it fills us with a bunch of personal meanings.
How to develop spontaneity?
Jacob Levi Moreno, a famous psychologist and psychiatrist of the last century, the father of psychodrama, was the first to ask this question. He viewed spontaneity and creativity as the two main concepts that define humanity. Moreno said that spontaneity is energy, the suppression of which leads to neurosis, and uncontrolled manifestation - to psychosis. The psychodramatic approach is aimed at developing spontaneity and its correct manifestation through acting out and improvisation.
Developing spontaneity is a very difficult task. This phrase itself contains a paradox, because "develop" presupposes some kind of external influence, which conflicts with the internal impulse for the emergence of spontaneity. But Gestalt psychology can come to the rescue in this, with its main principle “here and now”. Learning to be in the moment is very important for manifesting inner urges. After all, only when we plunge into the present with our heads, we can find a response to it within ourselves, understand our true emotions and desires, and act in accordance with them.
Constant control over ourselves and what is happening around, schedule, multitasking, schedules and plans really make our life easier, but if you add a little more spontaneity to it, then it can turn out to be much more interesting!
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