How To Stop Being Suspicious And Cheating Yourself

2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43

Every woman in her life at least once encounters the fact that it is difficult to put things in order in her thoughts. One and the same idea revolves in the head for hours, acquiring ever new dimensions and colors, dispelling anxiety or melancholy. But there is still no result. You seem to be looking for answers to your questions, endlessly analyzing something, but the process does not end. The first thing that comes to mind: “I probably need to think about it more! Probably, you need to be more aware!"

Someone tries to listen more to themselves, their feelings and thoughts. Someone is looking for signs around - in people and events. This is how suspiciousness is born. When every little thing, every event is given special meaning. A black cat on the road, a dove on the window - it definitely means something, yes, yes! And also dreams. Especially bright and emotionally colored. I just want to believe that this is a harbinger of something special! And if after sleeping you also had a headache - wait for the events!

Well, if you are ready to throw out this mental curling iron, then go ahead and point by point!

The first task. Stop thinking gum. This is an endless stream of thoughts, pondering and who said what, and how could it be better to say, but if it were so, but if it were that way … Those who work well with such thought processes as synthesis and analysis often cheat themselves. These are people who are inclined to see well the cause-and-effect relationships, draw conclusions, come up with whole multi-steps! And it's good if it is useful for the cause. But if there is a lot of energy inside and it does not find a way out, then the usual move is through the head, through thoughts. Stop this process by telling yourself “stop! What do I feel? Transfer all your attention to the body, to the sensations. Are you sitting, standing or walking? Start at your feet. Do you have comfortable shoes? Can you feel your foot touching the floor? Do you feel the tension? Or maybe you are sitting and your legs are numb? Walk with your inner gaze from the bottom up, pay enough attention to each part of the body. Look where there is discomfort, tension. Change your position, gait. And be sure to watch your breath! Inhale evenly, with a full chest, then exhale evenly. Do you feel how warm the air comes out of you? Concentrate on bodily sensations and so your mind will calm down, yogis have noticed this for a long time.

The second task. Deal with anxiety or nervousness, any emotion that haunts you. Have you noticed that it can be difficult to concentrate even on simple actions when there is no harmony inside? Because all the energy is spent on holding on to emotions. And the brain can either deal with emotions or cognitive functions. Therefore, emotional overload reduces memory, imagination, perception. Pure physiology. And here your body will help you too! Try to concentrate, look for this emotion in the body. Where do you feel anxiety? In the chest? Or in your hands? Catch her! Now align your breathing and imagine that instead of anxiety or irritation (substitute your own), you have warmth, peace. And with each exhalation, you release a piece of anxiety. Here are a few breaths and your condition has leveled off.

The third task. Spend more time on your health. See how important your body is to you! It helps so much, it is your support. For those who like to wind up thinking curlers and worry about everything in the world, sport is the best medicine! This energy, which does not find a way out, begins to disperse unpleasant thoughts. Give her free rein in sports. Perhaps, someone will suit intense strength and cardio loads, and someone will do yoga, Pilates, gymnastics. Just check - in 10-15 minutes after the start of the lesson, you will find that the mind is completely calm, the anxiety is letting go, all the negativity dissolves. Because there is a balance. Your mind has worked hard, and now the energy comes out through simple movements. And even with benefit.

Here it is also important to learn how to hear your body correctly. If you are worried about something, consult a doctor, do not delay the examination. Keep your health under control, but don't catastrophize either. Be a caring mother to yourself. Food, vitamins, sleep, rest - there should be enough space for everything. And don't diagnose yourself on your own. It is better to spend energy looking for good specialists.

The fourth task. If suspiciousness concerns health issues, then you can study this topic. Anxiety is where there is a zone of ignorance, a lack of information. If you know well how the body works, you will be calmer. There is now a lot of information available on the anatomy of the body and its physiological processes. And this is very interesting!

Fifth task. Treat your dreams correctly. For those who are especially suspicious, there is only a scientific approach: dreams are a product of our psyche. Dreams consist of what a person already has - his past, his desires, fears, thoughts. Everything that is in consciousness and unconsciousness is mixed into a vinaigrette of dreams. This is all that a person has seen, heard, thought. There is only one connection with the future - if there is anxiety about something. Then the dream will reflect only your own fears, but by no means upcoming events. Freud believed that any dream is either a reflection of fears or desires. If you have some very interesting, memorable, recurring dreams, it is better to work with their analysis, under the guidance of a competent specialist (psychologist or psychotherapist). And please, do not read dream books and do not get carried away with esotericism. The more suspicious you are, the more you need to rely on reality and facts.

The sixth task. Learn to leave the past behind. As they say, the word is not a sparrow, flew out and flew away. You cannot twist life back and say something more appropriate, do it differently. Everything has already happened. Even if you think that next time you will definitely do it better, it will not do much good. There may never be a next time. That event, that conversation already took place. And the second will never be exactly the same. The context has changed forever. A person is in an endless stream of changes. Every day, every hour, every moment you are already a little different. Tomorrow it will be you, who lived one more day. You already have more experience, impressions. And life flows exactly the way it can. It's like a trickle - it flows only where there is no obstacle. Likewise, a person's life, his individual picture of fate, is made up of what is possible at the moment. If something did not work out the way you wanted, expected, then it was not possible. Do not scold yourself for "wrong" words or "wrong" actions. Every time you made a choice, the best of all the options available at that time. Trust yourself. Drive away empty thoughts. Better dream good things.

Seventh task. Good dreams. To prevent funnels from forming in your head, manage this energy yourself. If there is no way to release it through the body, direct your thoughts like a trickle. Dream, create goals from dreams. Write stories, articles, notes, blog. Or maybe you can speak cool - make interesting videos. Draw, sculpt, embroider, knit, compose. Create! Transform your thoughts and emotions into something that you can touch with your hands and show to another person. Share your energy with children, close, distant - with whom you want! It is a powerful creative force that has gotten a little lost. And you can let it stagnate and become a swamp, or you can create rivers and seas out of this. Also give your mind enough food from the outside - read, learn new things, always a little more difficult and deeper. Your mind will be glad to be loaded.

And remember, all this is your energy and it is in your hands. It is you who are her mistress, not she who captures your consciousness. Own and direct!