2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43
How to avoid falling into the trap? Do not commit yourself to a relationship with a home tyrant
Always, I repeat ALWAYS, there are signs that a man is prone to violence. They appear even at the beginning of a relationship, but a woman who is blinded by feelings, captivated by her illusions, simply does not want to notice these alarming signals. And she justifies his behavior, or simply ignores these signs. And in vain …
1. The most frequent signal that manifests itself at the beginning of a relationship is pathological jealousy. “I just love you very much… I don’t want to share you with anyone…”. Jealousy speaks not of love, but of self-doubt and low self-esteem of a person.
Often, with jealousy, a man tries to justify the control of your life.
2. Controlling behavior
The man says that he is worried about your safety, wants you to make the right decisions, "I know better …", "I want to help you …", "I have more life experience …" and so on. He gets angry if you are late at work, in a store, asks in detail about who you were with, what you talked about. Over time, the control increases, it will tell you how to dress, with whom to communicate. Control can also be manifested in the induction of a woman to become pregnant or, on the contrary, in the compulsion to have an abortion.
3. At the beginning of a relationship, a man may ask you not to leave him alone if you want to meet with friends or relatives. Gradually, this will lead to the fact that he will cut you off from everyone, will be dissatisfied with any meeting and communication with other people, will consider them as a source of problems in your relationship "your parents do not like me …, your girlfriend looks askance at me …" or on the contrary, "she is trying to seduce me …". Will discourage any activities outside the home, such as banning access to a fitness center. In the worst case, it won't let you work.
4. If your man happens to be cruel towards children or animals, provokes conflicts with other people, is prone to sudden changes in mood, be wary
5. Information about the "past" life
Violence suffered by a man in childhood, if he saw a beating and / or abuse of his mother, or himself experienced violence at the hands of his father, then it is highly likely that, having matured, he will also behave in his family, towards his woman.
He himself can tell you that he insulted his previous woman, because she brought him up, misbehaved, was a bad housewife, etc. In general, in his opinion, she deserved such an attitude, he "taught, educated her …".
You may hear from relatives or friends that this person is unrestrained, impulsive, and can commit aggressive actions. Please pay serious attention to this information. A person who has allowed himself such behavior before will do the same in relation to you.
Linking your life with a man, listen to what he says about previous women, he will also talk about you!
6. It is typical for such a man to shift the blame for his problems on the state, on the circumstances, blaming others for his own problems and his own feelings
He can accuse you of upsetting him, preventing him from concentrating, preventing him from doing what he wanted. He will say: "You made me angry" or "You hurt me when you do not do what I ask," or "I cannot contain my anger because you provoke me." In fact, he perfectly controls his feelings, but uses them for manipulation.
7. A man may even threaten to commit suicide if you want to end the relationship
8. Bad sign: the use of violent "play" in sexual relations. Especially if this happens without your consent and against your will.
nine. Well, there are obvious signs: a man is physically rude to you, uses force during a quarrel, hurts, insults, threatens, breaks dishes, destroys objects. This behavior may be an attempt to punish you (for example, by breaking your favorite thing).
Only immature people break dishes (or break things) in order to influence another person. Destruction of objects is only the beginning, later the aggression will be directed at you.
10. Often women say that a man is aggressive when drunk. But after it turns out that he can be cruel and sober. Alcohol cannot be an excuse for violence, it only reduces the ability to control behavior. Among domestic tyrants, there are also many men who lead a healthy lifestyle and do not take alcohol.
The goal of domestic violence is to gain power and complete control over a woman. Thus, he increases his self-esteem, satisfies his sick self-esteem. The tyrant tries to control even the victim's feelings, causing serious damage to her psyche.
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