2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43
If we stop being true to ourselves, we are betraying ourselves. Perhaps someone had it like that in childhood, when, in order to survive, the child adjusted to the parents, their values, priorities, opinions about themselves. As a result, the true identity was "lost". The child tries to be like the parents need, adjusting to them, because this way you can get their love, without which he will not be able to live and develop normally. And now our girl becomes an adult…. Who is she? What is she like? She does not know…
To be true to yourself:
- You need to know yourself, understand what I want and give it to yourself. Be aware of your needs and be able to satisfy them.
- To be a separate autonomous person, where mom and dad are no longer there and you do not continue to look for them in partners, in the boss. You belong to yourself and no one else.
- Give yourself support, take care of yourself and your needs on your own, because nobody cares for you better than yourself.
- Putting yourself first, and then everyone else, and this is not about selfishness.
- Know your value and uniqueness for the world. Just because I AM. And I'm so cool at something.
- Follow your principles, values, priorities in life.
And then the question is: How mature am I to take care of myself and take responsibility for my life? To live by my own rules and try to realize these are my rules or am still in the parental scenario, I want to meet expectations … Constantly making a choice to follow it or not, and this is also about being true to yourself.
How this can be achieved:
- Appreciate yourself and your choice. To know my unconditional value, just from what I am. It is difficult for those "girls" to whom their parents did not show their value in childhood.
- Learn, get to know yourself. And here the main question is: Who am I? What am I? What can and what can not? What are my strengths? What is acceptable to me and what is not, etc.
- Nourish and take care of yourself. Making time for yourself, setting aside some of the time just for yourself, thinking what I want? What would make me a little happier today? What will energize me? And allow yourself this.
- Respect yourself, your needs and desires. Every time we choose to go not after our desires, ignoring our need, we are silent about our feelings - we betray ourselves. I don’t want to do it through, I can’t live through it, strain myself, calling it stubbornness, but in essence it is violence against oneself, betrayal of oneself.
- Demonstrate your boundaries. Realizing how comfortable you are and how not. Take care first about your comfort, then about others, from your desire, and not out of a sense of duty or guilt. Some people can go too far into our boundaries, imposing their opinions and what to do with us. A marker of violation of personal boundaries is a feeling of irritation, anger.
It is advisable to be aware of these feelings, at first it is difficult, especially when there is no such habit. It is even more difficult to maintain oneself in family interaction, next to a spouse, who may have their own plans for life, for the weekend, for tonight. But when I ask myself - What do I want? This clarifies a lot for me. There is a choice here to follow oneself or another. Often our decisions can affect the life of the family, not everyone may like our choice, but staying true to yourself, you can come to a healthy dialogue between two adults with the ability to agree or not.
Wish You Always Be True To Yourself.
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